To send to nursery or not?

I’m not sure whether or not you are aware but the government now has a new scheme where if you fit into a certain criteria you are able to send your child to nursery from the age of 2 for 15 hours per week.

Eligibility for 2-year-olds

Your 2-year-old can get free early education and childcare if you get one of the following:

  • Income Support
  • income-based Jobseeker’s Allowance (JSA)
  • income-related Employment and Support Allowance (ESA)
  • Universal Credit
  • tax credits and you have an annual income of under £16,190 before tax
  • the guaranteed element of State Pension Credit
  • support through part 6 of the Immigration and Asylum Act
  • the Working Tax Credit 4-week run on (the payment you get when you stop qualifying for Working Tax Credit)

A child can also get free early education and childcare if any of the following apply:

  • they’re looked after by a local council
  • they have a current statement of special education needs (SEN) or an education, health and care (EHC) plan
  • they get Disability Living Allowance
  • they’ve left care under a special guardianship order, child arrangements order or adoption order


Due to our personal circumstances we have qualified for this for a while now but every time we have received the letter I have thrown it straight into the bin, Now there are a couple of reasons that I’ve done this and I know some of you may or may not agree with me here but this is my opinion on the matter.

Firstly, I don’t agree with the fact that this is only available to people who DON’T work , surely the help should be available to those who do? Last year when I was working childcare costs were a real problem, it was physically impossible for both me and my partner to work at the same time because neither of us are highly skilled or were in an executive job by the time we would have paid for child care one us would have literally have been working just to pay for somebody else to take care of the children.

Secondly, Why do you need someone to take care of your child if you’re at home anyway? 14711392_1141840699205221_3094712787427067710_o

Well I have to tell you I am beginning to have a change of heart, Recently Freddie has become what can only be described as a little whirlwind of terror, He is like a master of destruction and god help anyone or anything that gets in his path. He really is the king of screaming at the top of his voice until he gets his own way and Houdini has absolutely nothing on this child. There is absolutely nothing that this boy cannot get out of. And his temper tantrums, well they are something else.

This is something completely new to me, with the exception of Ellie ( who was a seriously badly behaved toddler, however that was due to issues with her ears and she has never misbehaved since you can read about it here –  It doesn’t matter how many kids you have ) all of my children have been absolute and utter angels when its come to being toddlers, so I am not in any way , shape or form used to this sort of thing.I’m almost certain my neighbours must think that we are torturing him.


I have spent a lot of today and this evening thinking about why he does it and ways in which I can help him get out of it and maybe just enjoy being a toddler rather than crying about it 😉 and I have come up with a few things, I think he needs a bit of structure and routine in his life so I have spent this evening writing up a plan for the week with breakfast,snack,dinner,nap,tea,bath and bedtime on it and also created and reward chart for him and now I have hit another idea/issue to mull over and that is do I bite the bullet, admit defeat and let go of the reins and actually take them up on the 2 year funding offer?


Now I know it goes against everything I said in the beginning of this blog post but I do have my reasons for looking at this option,

  1. With the age gap between Freddie and his older siblings and his little sister being so small he doesn’t have anyone around his own age to mix with.
  2. I think he is getting bored! There is only so much playing you can do with your old mum & dad before mums singing gives you headache or dads dancing becomes mundane.
  3. I think the routine of nursery could help him to calm down.
  4. He needs to realise that discipline is needed and that he has to follow rules.
  5.  He is a very bright boy and I believe he needs stimulating.

HOWEVER as much as I know it is probably the best thing for him and will help to calm him down and give him the skills he needs around other children of his own age HE IS MINE!!!!!! and I don’t want to share him 🙁

The not so fun part of being a mummy is sometimes you have to let go that little bit because it’s what is for the best ……….



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