Recently I received an email saying that I had been nominated for an award from the people at the UK Blog awards and I just had to fill in the form then wait to see if I had gotten through to the next round. Continue reading “I’ve been nominated for an award!”
This week I have decided it would be nice to share my birth stories with you. With 5 children every single one has a completely different experience and whether you’ve already have children or whether you are currently pregnant/planning a baby hopefully reading these will help you. Let’s start with Harry!
When we hear the word tantrum we always think of toddlers. 2 and 3 year olds being grumpy over the slightest things. I am not joking when I say some of the reasons there have been tantrums in my house are just…. Well you sit back and wonder if you’re actually going in sane
Top 5 Toddler Tantrums
I thought I would enlighten you all on what I consider the top 5 tantrums I’ve experienced with my kids. I will work from number 5 down to number 1 which I consider the ultimate tantrum so far.
5. Bethie kicked off because she wanted to watch Ryans Toy Review. What was on the TV? Ryan’s Toy Review like she had asked. She even chose the episode but no, that Ryan wasn’t good enough she wanted a different one.
4. Harry was the most devastated boy on the earth when I gave birth to Annabelle. He did not want a baby sister and my god did I know it!
3. Ellie wanted to leave home. At the ripe old age of 3 she packed a bag and waved me goodbye on the doorstep. Why? I genuinely can’t remember but Ellie used to kick off about the world so it was probably something as simple as not having the right spread on her toast. ( she even made me do her hair before she left) She only got to the end of the path before running back saying I’m sorry mummy I love you.
2. Annabelle was sent to her room and her tantrum was probably one of the best I’ve ever seen. Annabelle doesn’t know when to stop and argues back ( not sure where she gets that from ) On this particular occasion she was sent to her room. All we heard from down the stairs was her asking the cat to help her. It was hard not to giggle as we heard “Mimi help me”
- My number one favourite tantrum from my kids so far was when Harry was about 1 and a half and Ellie was pretty much a newborn. Ellie had been a little whiney all day and I just heard ” Mummy she is doing my head in” Queue massive tantrum about his sister. Unbelievably that was also his first full sentence.
I’d like to tell you it gets better
But I just can’t! You get past the tantrums from toddlers into a lovely middle phase that I like to call the calm before the storm. Usually between the ages of say 6 and 10. This is where you think you’ve cracked the parenting thing. They’ve started to listen to you. Behave well in general. You can take them anywhere with very minimal fuss.
They like to lull you into a false sense of security. You have amazing incredible bonding moments where they are even able to sit down and enjoy a whole film with you. Help you around the house and become what can only be described as angels. DO NOT BELIEVE IT
Pre-teen and Teen Tantrums begin
Just when you think you’ve got it all cracked and you may actually be doing an alright job as a parent they have yet another trick up their sleeves. They become preteens and teenagers.
With this new-found status comes many things including hormones, smelly pits , acne and dramas but worse than that you get Teen tantrums!
Top 5 Teen Tantrums
Now you wouldn’t think the tantrums would continue once they hit an age where they pretty much fully understand the world. They know their own minds and can listen to instructions but you would be very much mistaken. Here are my top 5 Teenage tantrums.
5. I would not let Harry finish tidying his room. Now I know what you’re thinking. What teenager does their room but Harry isn’t a typical teenager and has a thing about tidying up. His brother was going to bed so he was asked to leave the rest till the morning. You would swear I’d taken his last sweet off him.
4. Telling Ellie she had to walk to school. Now I need you to understand the school is literally a 5-10 minute walk from my house. If I drop her off and pick her up I’m stuck in a sea of traffic and the whole experience takes around 30 minutes to complete. When I suggested walking you would think I had asked her to chop off her left arm. ( I don’t know why I said left I just did lol )
3. Now when you pass the toddler phase you would think the arguments over sweets would stop but this isn’t true. In fact tonight Ellie sulked because Harry had a lollipop and she wanted it. Queue arguing over a lollipop! Yes a lollipop aged 14 and 13 my kids are throwing strops over a sweetie!
2. Now this one I’m sure others could relate to. It’s a school morning. You’ve asked 15 times if they have everything ready. Done their homework etc and then you get in the car for one of them to realise that they haven’t done it. Of course naturally this is all your fault and absolutely nothing to do with the fact they spent the whole night chatting to friends or watching YouTube videos.
- This tantrum is by far the best tantrum I’ve witness in a teenager yet. Ellie discovered she likes boys! In particular this boy also liked her. Now unlike most teenagers who just get excited over the fact. Ellie had a full-blown meltdown because she liked a boy who also liked her. I’m not joking when I say there were tears and everything!
In conclusion this post is literally to prewarn you all that up until now the tantrums in our house are still very much here and that you really shouldn’t get fooled by the calm before the storm.
God help us when puberty full hits. I think I may book myself a trip away until they’re 18 then return once it’s all over.
Parents of older kids/ young adults please tell me it gets easier.
I know this isn’t true I still tantrum now. One of my favourite sulks/ tantrums being because I didn’t get new pj’s for Christmas when I ALWAYS get new pj’s. It was that bad I then got bought new pj’s to stop me sulking… True Story!
Have you ever had a moment where you feel proud of something you’ve achieved? But not something where you have helped yourself, or something where one of your babies have done something. Last night I helped a mummy who was really struggling with her baby. Continue reading “Am I a secret baby whisperer?”
Tonight was one of those love to hate Mummy moments, It was Ellie’s parents evening. Now the reason I say love to hate is because I love the fact that I get to go and speak to all of the teachers, find out how my children are progressing and get feedback on anything that I can do to help them. Continue reading “Parents evening – Proud Mummy Moment”
An Ode To An Average Mum Like Me
I know you’re feeling tired and maybe a little blue
Your thoughts of a million scenarios
And what you think you should do
That poo stain up their back
And spaghetti in there hair
Their beautiful clothes
When you have nothing yourself to wear
Sometimes you try your hardest
And it never seems enough
But you just keep on trying
Because you’re Mum, You’re tough
Your feelings come last
Your hairs in a messy bun
But that’s OK you’ll deal with it
Because you are a mum
Night time falls it’s time for bed
You do a little dance
Because you manage to get a coffee that’s hot
it’s been your only chance
You sit and ponder all the things
You said or did that day
You’re feeling guilty for shouting
Even though nastily they did play
Just remember that whilst you’re here and feeling kind of glum
There are little eyes looking up to you
Proud and happy that you’re their mum
From this mummy to you
We have all been there where we feel useless or not enough, friends have come and gone. You feel like you mean little or nothing. I just want to tell you, you are doing the best you can. And to those little people that are looking up to you that best is more than good enough.
Stop being so hard on yourselves and don’t always put yourselves last. You deserve time for yourself. Whether you are a working mum, stay at home mum, someone who bottle feeds or breastfeeds. If you take them to every club going or just sit and play games. YOU are doing the best for you and don’t ever compare yourself to others.
Thank you for reading and keep smiling,
You’ve got this!
Today I wanted to write about something that I thought others might find interesting and a subject which a lot of people don’t actually know the answer to. When is the right age to leave your child alone?
If you need to quickly pop to the shops to grab some milk or maybe you work till 5 and the kids finish school at 3:15 is it OK to leave your kids at home? Continue reading “When is the right age to leave your child alone?”
I’m pretty sure we aren’t the only ones but sometimes trying to be a couple as well as parenting can be very difficult. Even more so now the children are older with Harry being 13 and Ellie being 12 it isn’t like we can send them to bed at 7 pm anymore and enjoy the rest of our night. In fact by the time they have gone to bed it’s time for Gareth to start venturing to bed as he likes to be tucked up quite early in case the babies wake up with the sun! Continue reading “Trying to be a couple instead of just parents.”