An Ode To An Average Mum Like me

An Ode To An Average Mum Like Me

I know you’re feeling tired and maybe a little blue
Your thoughts of a million scenarios
And what you think you should do

That poo stain up their back
And spaghetti in there hair
Their beautiful clothes
When you have nothing yourself to wear

Sometimes you try your hardest
And it never seems enough
But you just keep on trying
Because you’re Mum, You’re tough

Your feelings come last
Your hairs in a messy bun
But that’s OK you’ll deal with it
Because you are a mum

Night time falls it’s time for bed
You do a little dance
Because you manage to get a coffee that’s hot
it’s been your only chance

You sit and ponder all the things
You said or did that day
You’re feeling guilty for shouting
Even though nastily they did play

Just remember that whilst you’re here and feeling kind of glum
There are little eyes looking up to you
Proud and happy that you’re their mum

From this mummy to you 

We have all been there where we feel useless or not enough, friends have come and gone. You feel like you mean little or nothing. I just want to tell you, you are doing the best you can. And to those little people that are looking up to you that best is more than good enough.

Stop being so hard on yourselves and don’t always put yourselves last. You deserve time for yourself. Whether you are a working mum, stay at home mum, someone who bottle feeds or breastfeeds. If you take them to every club going or just sit and play games. YOU are doing the best for you and don’t ever compare yourself to others.

Thank you for reading and keep smiling,

You’ve got this!

 

 

 

Why I will ALWAYS choose UK holidays over going abroad!

We all have our favourite kind of holidays, whether you prefer lying by a pool in the sun or walking along a beach. Heading to kids clubs or camping in the middle of nowhere there really is holidays out there for everyone. I will always choose the UK.

I’m scared!!!!

One of the main reasons that I will always holiday in the UK is because I am absolutely petrified of getting on a plane! I don’t even know what it is that I am scared of. I don’t have a fear of heights or claustrophobia so I really don’t know what it is. Once I spoke to someone who specialises in fears and they had quite a good theory that maybe it’s a fear of not being in control. Because I am not scared of helicopters or any other form of transport and I am literally just scared of planes. The theory is that in a bus, car, train and even a helicopter you have the person in charge of it in full view. The option is there if you want them to stop, you are able to ask. In a plane however you can’t see the pilot, there is no way of asking them to just stop in the middle of nowhere and for you to just get off it. So the person I spoke to thinks rather than it being the actual plane that I am scared of it is more the fact that I have no control over what happens as I am in it.

The heat!

I am not a fan of the sun, yes I know I’m weird who doesn’t like sun eh? But I don’t like to be too hot. If you’re hot there are only so many layers you can take off before it becomes uncomfortable in more ways than one, trust me nobody wants to see me naked! And even if I did strip down to nothing there isn’t an option to take anything else off so you still just sit there and boil. Alongside the actual heat itself people stink! , I don’t know what it is about the sun that makes people stop using soap but it really is disgusting. I walked into a shop when it was hot here last week and the overwhelming smell of body odour was vile. There really is no need. As well as being too hot & people forgetting what soap is for people tend to be really grumpy in the heat. I find everybody is really snappy because they are so hot and bothered.  At least when you are cold you can wrap up warmer and add layers , turn on a fire or the heating. You can’t turn off the sun.

Everything I need is right here in the uk

This is another big reason I prefer to holiday in the UK. I was bought up going to holiday parks, taking part in party dances, joining in kids clubs and going on fairground rides. Even if the weather was terrible outside there was always something to do and that is the kind of amazing memories I want my children to have. I want them to wake up and go to kids clubs with their favourite entertainers, eat weird dinner combinations in the caravan or chalet before heading off for more fun. Go to the evening entertainment where they learn dances and generally have great fun. Swim in the pools. I am a holiday park girl through and through after growing up going to them and then becoming an entertainer in one myself. I love them and I rarely go in the summer too! We love to go at the beginning or the end of the year where the weather isn’t too hot. 

The only problem is that now there are 7 of us it is becoming more and more difficult to find affordable places to go. I looked at taking all of my kids to Butlins  for a weekend but the price for all of us was way beyond our budget at over £700 just for Fri-Mon , We also find that a lot of places can’t accommodate for all of us meaning that if we wanted to stay in a hotel for example at the Premier Inn then we would have to book 2 rooms meaning double the cost.  I understand we had this many children and we chose to have a large family but with places designed for families you would think there would be more affordable options available. Due to the cost we don’t get to go every year or even sometimes every 2 years but when we can afford to go we always have a fantastic time. 

We love places such as Haven, Butlins , Premier Inn and Travelodge and I would choose any of them over going abroad I know what to expect and I know that my children will enjoy it as much as we will. 

When it comes to a break just for me and Gareth without the kids ( which has NEVER happened yet) we would love to stay in a lodge somewhere, peaceful, a nice log fire, cosy and beautiful ( we can dream right? )

Thanks for reading

 

Expectation vs Reality – Becoming a family

We all have this image in our heads growing up about our perfect little families. Well I did anyway and for me the expectation was I would grow up, get married and obviously have identical twin girls. My husband would work hard and constantly buy me flowers and surprise me with romantic gestures. I fully blame fairy tales for giving me these huge expectations and falsely so.

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Fun, Free, Sunday family afternoon out in the Sun

We are trying to save money and get healthier too. So we have been looking at free ways to get out of the house. I noticed a friend put some photographs on Facebook last week of somewhere that looked lovely.

After asking her where the place was, she offered to take us and show us this weekend. I’m currently on a bit of a health fix ( I am desperate to look healthier for our upcoming wedding), so this seemed like the perfect solution. A day / afternoon out with the kids and getting fresh air and exercise all in one. Continue reading “Fun, Free, Sunday family afternoon out in the Sun”