Toddler Tantrums to Teen Tantrums

When we hear the word tantrum we always think of toddlers. 2 and 3 year olds being grumpy over the slightest things. I am not joking when I say some of the reasons there have been tantrums in my house are just…. Well you sit back and wonder if you’re actually going in sane

Top 5 Toddler Tantrums

Picture of Bethie and Freddie sitting on a fire engine with fire helmets on

I thought I would enlighten you all on what I consider the top 5 tantrums I’ve experienced with my kids. I will work from number 5 down to number 1 which I consider the ultimate tantrum so far.

5. Bethie kicked off because she wanted to watch Ryans Toy Review. What was on the TV? Ryan’s Toy Review like she had asked. She even chose the episode but no, that Ryan wasn’t good enough she wanted a different one.

4. Harry was the most devastated boy on the earth when I gave birth to Annabelle. He did not want a baby sister and my god did I know it!

3. Ellie wanted to leave home. At the ripe old age of 3 she packed a bag and waved me goodbye on the doorstep. Why? I genuinely can’t remember but Ellie used to kick off about the world so it was probably something as simple as not having the right spread on her toast. ( she even made me do her hair before she left) She only got to the end of the path before running back saying I’m sorry mummy I love you.

2. Annabelle was sent to her room and her tantrum was probably one of the best I’ve ever seen. Annabelle doesn’t know when to stop and argues back ( not sure where she gets that from ) On this particular occasion she was sent to her room. All we heard from down the stairs was her asking the cat to help her. It was hard not to giggle as we heard “Mimi help me”

  1. My number one favourite tantrum from my kids so far was when Harry was about 1 and a half and Ellie was pretty much a newborn. Ellie had been a little whiney all day and I just heard ” Mummy she is doing my head in” Queue massive tantrum about his sister. Unbelievably that was also his first full sentence.

I’d like to tell you it gets better

But I just can’t! You get past the tantrums from toddlers into a lovely middle phase that I like to call the calm before the storm. Usually between the ages of say 6 and 10. This is where you think you’ve cracked the parenting thing. They’ve started to listen to you. Behave well in general. You can take them anywhere with very minimal fuss.

They like to lull you into a false sense of security. You have amazing incredible bonding moments where they are even able to sit down and enjoy a whole film with you. Help you around the house and become what can only be described as angels. DO NOT BELIEVE IT

Pre-teen and Teen Tantrums begin

Just when you think you’ve got it all cracked and you may actually be doing an alright job as a parent they have yet another trick up their sleeves. They become preteens and teenagers.

With this new-found status comes many things including hormones, smelly pits , acne and dramas but worse than that you get Teen tantrums!

Top 5 Teen Tantrums

Now you wouldn’t think the tantrums would continue once they hit an age where they pretty much fully understand the world. They know their own minds and can listen to instructions but you would be very much mistaken. Here are my top 5 Teenage tantrums.

5. I would not let Harry finish tidying his room. Now I know what you’re thinking. What teenager does their room but Harry isn’t a typical teenager and has a thing about tidying up. His brother was going to bed so he was asked to leave the rest till the morning. You would swear I’d taken his last sweet off him.

4. Telling Ellie she had to walk to school. Now I need you to understand the school is literally a 5-10 minute walk from my house. If I drop her off and pick her up I’m stuck in a sea of traffic and the whole experience takes around 30 minutes to complete. When I suggested walking you would think I had asked her to chop off her left arm. ( I don’t know why I said left I just did lol )

3. Now when you pass the toddler phase you would think the arguments over sweets would stop but this isn’t true. In fact tonight Ellie sulked because Harry had a lollipop and she wanted it. Queue arguing over a lollipop! Yes a lollipop aged 14 and 13 my kids are throwing strops over a sweetie!

2. Now this one I’m sure others could relate to. It’s a school morning. You’ve asked 15 times if they have everything ready. Done their homework etc and then you get in the car for one of them to realise that they haven’t done it. Of course naturally this is all your fault and absolutely nothing to do with the fact they spent the whole night chatting to friends or watching YouTube videos.

  1. This tantrum is by far the best tantrum I’ve witness in a teenager yet. Ellie discovered she likes boys! In particular this boy also liked her. Now unlike most teenagers who just get excited over the fact. Ellie had a full-blown meltdown because she liked a boy who also liked her. I’m not joking when I say there were tears and everything!

Conclusion

In conclusion this post is literally to prewarn you all that up until now the tantrums in our house are still very much here and that you really shouldn’t get fooled by the calm before the storm.

God help us when puberty full hits. I think I may book myself a trip away until they’re 18 then return once it’s all over.

Parents of older kids/ young adults please tell me it gets easier.

I know this isn’t true I still tantrum now. One of my favourite sulks/ tantrums being because I didn’t get new pj’s for Christmas when I ALWAYS get new pj’s. It was that bad I then got bought new pj’s to stop me sulking… True Story!

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An Ode To An Average Mum Like me

An Ode To An Average Mum Like Me

I know you’re feeling tired and maybe a little blue
Your thoughts of a million scenarios
And what you think you should do

That poo stain up their back
And spaghetti in there hair
Their beautiful clothes
When you have nothing yourself to wear

Sometimes you try your hardest
And it never seems enough
But you just keep on trying
Because you’re Mum, You’re tough

Your feelings come last
Your hairs in a messy bun
But that’s OK you’ll deal with it
Because you are a mum

Night time falls it’s time for bed
You do a little dance
Because you manage to get a coffee that’s hot
it’s been your only chance

You sit and ponder all the things
You said or did that day
You’re feeling guilty for shouting
Even though nastily they did play

Just remember that whilst you’re here and feeling kind of glum
There are little eyes looking up to you
Proud and happy that you’re their mum

From this mummy to you 

We have all been there where we feel useless or not enough, friends have come and gone. You feel like you mean little or nothing. I just want to tell you, you are doing the best you can. And to those little people that are looking up to you that best is more than good enough.

Stop being so hard on yourselves and don’t always put yourselves last. You deserve time for yourself. Whether you are a working mum, stay at home mum, someone who bottle feeds or breastfeeds. If you take them to every club going or just sit and play games. YOU are doing the best for you and don’t ever compare yourself to others.

Thank you for reading and keep smiling,

You’ve got this!

 

 

 

Why I will ALWAYS choose UK holidays over going abroad!

We all have our favourite kind of holidays, whether you prefer lying by a pool in the sun or walking along a beach. Heading to kids clubs or camping in the middle of nowhere there really is holidays out there for everyone. I will always choose the UK.

I’m scared!!!!

One of the main reasons that I will always holiday in the UK is because I am absolutely petrified of getting on a plane! I don’t even know what it is that I am scared of. I don’t have a fear of heights or claustrophobia so I really don’t know what it is. Once I spoke to someone who specialises in fears and they had quite a good theory that maybe it’s a fear of not being in control. Because I am not scared of helicopters or any other form of transport and I am literally just scared of planes. The theory is that in a bus, car, train and even a helicopter you have the person in charge of it in full view. The option is there if you want them to stop, you are able to ask. In a plane however you can’t see the pilot, there is no way of asking them to just stop in the middle of nowhere and for you to just get off it. So the person I spoke to thinks rather than it being the actual plane that I am scared of it is more the fact that I have no control over what happens as I am in it.

The heat!

I am not a fan of the sun, yes I know I’m weird who doesn’t like sun eh? But I don’t like to be too hot. If you’re hot there are only so many layers you can take off before it becomes uncomfortable in more ways than one, trust me nobody wants to see me naked! And even if I did strip down to nothing there isn’t an option to take anything else off so you still just sit there and boil. Alongside the actual heat itself people stink! , I don’t know what it is about the sun that makes people stop using soap but it really is disgusting. I walked into a shop when it was hot here last week and the overwhelming smell of body odour was vile. There really is no need. As well as being too hot & people forgetting what soap is for people tend to be really grumpy in the heat. I find everybody is really snappy because they are so hot and bothered.  At least when you are cold you can wrap up warmer and add layers , turn on a fire or the heating. You can’t turn off the sun.

Everything I need is right here in the uk

This is another big reason I prefer to holiday in the UK. I was bought up going to holiday parks, taking part in party dances, joining in kids clubs and going on fairground rides. Even if the weather was terrible outside there was always something to do and that is the kind of amazing memories I want my children to have. I want them to wake up and go to kids clubs with their favourite entertainers, eat weird dinner combinations in the caravan or chalet before heading off for more fun. Go to the evening entertainment where they learn dances and generally have great fun. Swim in the pools. I am a holiday park girl through and through after growing up going to them and then becoming an entertainer in one myself. I love them and I rarely go in the summer too! We love to go at the beginning or the end of the year where the weather isn’t too hot. 

The only problem is that now there are 7 of us it is becoming more and more difficult to find affordable places to go. I looked at taking all of my kids to Butlins  for a weekend but the price for all of us was way beyond our budget at over £700 just for Fri-Mon , We also find that a lot of places can’t accommodate for all of us meaning that if we wanted to stay in a hotel for example at the Premier Inn then we would have to book 2 rooms meaning double the cost.  I understand we had this many children and we chose to have a large family but with places designed for families you would think there would be more affordable options available. Due to the cost we don’t get to go every year or even sometimes every 2 years but when we can afford to go we always have a fantastic time. 

We love places such as Haven, Butlins , Premier Inn and Travelodge and I would choose any of them over going abroad I know what to expect and I know that my children will enjoy it as much as we will. 

When it comes to a break just for me and Gareth without the kids ( which has NEVER happened yet) we would love to stay in a lodge somewhere, peaceful, a nice log fire, cosy and beautiful ( we can dream right? )

Thanks for reading

 

Expectation vs Reality – Becoming a family

We all have this image in our heads growing up about our perfect little families. Well I did anyway and for me the expectation was I would grow up, get married and obviously have identical twin girls. My husband would work hard and constantly buy me flowers and surprise me with romantic gestures. I fully blame fairy tales for giving me these huge expectations and falsely so.

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Fun, Free, Sunday family afternoon out in the Sun

We are trying to save money and get healthier too. So we have been looking at free ways to get out of the house. I noticed a friend put some photographs on Facebook last week of somewhere that looked lovely.

After asking her where the place was, she offered to take us and show us this weekend. I’m currently on a bit of a health fix ( I am desperate to look healthier for our upcoming wedding), so this seemed like the perfect solution. A day / afternoon out with the kids and getting fresh air and exercise all in one. Continue reading “Fun, Free, Sunday family afternoon out in the Sun”