Birth Stories – Freddie

This week I have decided it would be nice to share my birth stories with you. With 5 children every single one has a completely different experience and whether you’ve already have children or whether you are currently pregnant/planning a baby hopefully reading these will help you. We’ve already had Harry , Ellie and Annabelle so now it’s time for Freddie.

The pregnancy

When I first met Gareth he never wanted children. He told me he had never seen himself becoming a Dad but once he got to know Harry, Ellie and Annabelle he fell in love with them and it completely changed his mind on the subject. It wasn’t long before we spoke about having a child of our own.

Little did the people around us know but we started trying quite soon after meeting but it just wasn’t happening. Every month I would track my periods and fertility windows religiously. I dread to think how much money we actually spent on pregnancy tests. I even went through a phantom pregnancy where I had all of the symptoms, the weight gain but the tests were still showing negative. 

A trip to the doctors confirmed that it was a phantom pregnancy. I always thought until this point that phantom pregnancies were psychological. However the doctor assured me that the reason I felt I was pregnant wasn’t in my brain it was my body actually tricking me into believing it.

By this point I think it’s safe to say that I was downhearted and that I felt maybe my previous fertility problems had resurfaced. Gareth was upset too because as much as he loved the other children he really wanted a child of his own.

Mummies little chunk

Then I started getting pregnancy symptoms again. This was a week before my period was even due but I just had a feeling that this wasn’t another phantom pregnancy and it was real.

We had gone to the local town centre as we needed to visit the bank and whilst Gareth was in the bank I nipped to get a pregnancy test and went to the loo. I took the test and watched as the line went into a cross. I was right I was pregnant! I decided to take a photo of the test and made my way back to the bank where he was waiting to see someone.

Without saying a word I just showed him the photo of the test. What I didn’t think about was the fact that he hadn’t been through this before so he looked at me blankly before asking what it meant. Nodding my head you almost saw the penny drop that I was pregnant! 

The pregnancy itself was fairly straight forward. No need for any lumbar punctures this time round. I was sick but literally only once and my god did I do it in style. 

We’d decided to find out the sex for several reasons. The first being my ex-husband never wanted to find out the sex with the older ones but I had really wanted to know. Also Gareth had it in his head he wanted a little boy and I figured if we found out and it was a girl it would stop him feeling the way I did when Harry was born. There was also logistics of would we need to move house or not.

Entering the scanning room I was nervous , I knew how much it meant to Gareth that this baby was a little boy and I was panicking about what would happen if it wasn’t.  There was really no need. The second the scanner was placed on my stomach it was almost as if he was showing off. Before we saw anything else we saw his winky! In fact I swear he was doing the helicopter with it.

Labour

Earlier on that morning I had gone for a bath and I had no idea why but I just knew I was going to go into labour. There were no signs of it at all. No pains, nothing I just knew. I came out of the bath and said to Gareth that I thought it was going to be that day, he was very sceptical because there was nothing to indicate it all  and we had already had a false alarm.

Around 3am I woke Gareth up to tell him I was in labour. I have never seen a bigger look of panic before. I’d sat downstairs for a couple of hours before that with little niggles but nothing major and hadn’t said anything to him.
Being a first time Dad he shot straight into panic mode, asking if I had everything , trying to rush me to the hospital and was very frustrated when I sat on the kitchen side drinking coffee before heading to the hospital.

My Dad turned up to tale us to the hospital and the pains were getting very intense by this point. Dad’s a bit of a joker so when he said he had taken a wrong turn I didn’t believe him but he really had! I thought I was about to give birth there and then.

Birth

For the first time ever I really wanted an epidural this labour was more painful than any of the other 3 so as soon as I arrived I asked if I could have one. On my notes it stated how I had a high pain threshold and that I’d had easy labours previous so the midwife wanted to check me first to see how far dilated I was.  There was a student midwife there and  was asked if I would mind her taking over my care. For me letting the students work on me is very important. They can’t get qualified without a certain criteria so without a doubt I said it was fine.  This decision was a fantastic one because she was absolutely incredible. 

Anyway , when I was checked I was already 7 cm dilated so there was no big pain relief for me just good old gas and air. For the first time ever my waters hadn’t popped so I didn’t really believe I was that far gone.

Freddie’s labour was super fast and as soon as he came out the midwives commented on the size of him, it even took 2 of the midwives to carry him to the scales. I was lay there wondering what kind of giant I had given birth to, but he turned out to be 9lb 7oz

sleepy baby

We had to stay in! 

During my pregnancy with Freddie I received a letter saying that during Annabelle’s birth they had discovered that I was a carrier of Group B Strep. I had absolutely no idea and it hadn’t been mentioned before this point so I was quite shocked. As a precaution during my pregnancy they did a test and it came back positive. Because I gave birth so quickly there wasn’t enough time to get the antibiotics in meaning that we had to stay in overnight to be observed. At first I was devastated , with all of my other children I had never needed to stay longer than a few hours and I’m not the biggest fan of hospitals after regular lumbar punctures but I knew I had no choice because I needed to know he was safe. Whilst I was there it felt like I was staying in a hotel ( only with a newborn and a very sore foof!)  The meals were delicious and everytime he woke for a feed a nurse would bring me a cup of coffee, I was quite sad when they said it was time to go home.

Everything was fine and we went home 24 hours later, Freddie Robert Hopkins was born at 06:56 on 13th July 2014

Thanks for reading 

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Christmas Gift Guide for Inbetweener girls 2018

If like me you have an inbetweener little girl you will find they are extremely difficult to buy for. A little bit too big for dolls and too young for make up. Annabelle is 9 and not particularly into anything at all. She has no favourite characters/games etc so when it comes to buying for her it can be a bit of a minefield.

I thought what better way to share my ideas than with another gift guide. If you missed my gift guide for her you can give it a little nosey here. Continue reading “Christmas Gift Guide for Inbetweener girls 2018”

Top 5 Annoying Youtubers that my children watch

It’s Sunday afternoon, The kids have been fed and watered , the uniforms are drying , it’s not quite bedtime yet so we are all relaxing, relaxing in this house means lots of different YouTube videos being played at exactly the same time. I’m sat here listening to them and a particular voice that just does right through me so I thought what better thing to do than to give you my Top 5 annoying YouTubers?  Let’s start and number 5 then work our way to what I consider to be the most annoying YouTuber around. ( Please note these are purely based on the people who my children watch regularly and drive me nuts , I’m sure they’re lovely people in ‘real’ life.

5. The Odd 1s Out

This YouTuber is one of Annabelle’s favourites, she can be found watching this at every opportunity. I just don’t get it! It’s some guy drawing stuff and talking about the most random things in the land. I’ve just looked and this guy has over 7.4 MILLION followers. I guess the best way to describe it is kind of like a blog in cartoon form. Honestly I don’t get why this keeps Annabelle occupied for hours but it does!

4. Miranda Sings

She talks weird, has lipstick everywhere and just chats rubbish. I believe she is a comedian and Miranda Sings is actually just one of her characters like Lee Francis being Keith Lemon.  I’m sure that the 9 million followers she has understand her comedy a lot more than I do but I’ll stick with comedians like Michael Macintyre , At least I understand his jokes

3. Blippi

Blippi is one of my toddlers favourite YouTubers in the land and I have to be honest when they first started watching him, I thought he was brilliant. He helps to teach children colours, days of the week, months of the year so he is extremely educational. However, my little uns love the songs meaning that I hear Blippi songs almost 24/7 . There are only so many times that I can hear the halloween song before I start losing my sanity. ( As I’m writing this I had to find the link to share with you the joy of the halloween song and immediately Bethie is climbing on my lap to sing along … groan )

2. Liza Koshy

This one is someone the teens tend to watch, I kid you not when I tell you this girl is actually completely barking mad! … I sat watching one the other day where she was trying to drive a car and I just thought oh my god really what do my kids watch?

I definitely wouldn’t recommend this if you’re wanting your kids to watch someone educational and inspiring. She swears a massive amount and has an attitude I wouldn’t want my kids to have.

 

And in poll position for the YouTubers I find most annoying is …………..

1. Ryan’s toy review

Now I do feel this may actually be a little unfair on Ryan himself because it isn’t actually him that I find annoying. It’s his mum! Her voice goes right through me and her constant fake laughing is similar to when you hear someone scrape their nails down a blackboard.

The little fella himself has done so well I just feel that maybe his parents have taken over a little bit too much as it has changed so much since the beginning and they seem to attempt to take over quite  .

 

So there you have it, these are my top 5 annoying YouTubers, do you have any? who are they? why do you find them annoying?

Like I said these people are probably lovely in real life but they just drive me nuts 🙂

 

 

 

Parents evening – Proud Mummy Moment

Tonight was one of those love to hate Mummy moments, It was Ellie’s parents evening. Now the reason I say love to hate is because I love the fact that I get to go and speak to all of the teachers, find out how my children are progressing and get feedback on anything that I can do to help them. Continue reading “Parents evening – Proud Mummy Moment”

Things you never thought you would hear yourself say – Until you became a parent.

Before I became a parent there were many things I wouldn’t dream of saying, things such as ‘Please stop drinking out of your brothers potty’ or ‘Don’t scratch your bum then sniff your finger’ Today another little gem occurred when Gareth said ‘ Freddie please stop drinking off the table’ After Freddie has spilt his drink all over the table then proceeded to lick it off like a cat!  So I took to some of my favourite bloggers and asked them. “What are the things you never thought you would hear yourself say? ” Continue reading “Things you never thought you would hear yourself say – Until you became a parent.”

When is the right age to leave your child alone?

Today I wanted to write about something that I thought others might find interesting and a subject which a lot of people don’t actually know the answer to. When is the right age to leave your child alone?

If you need to quickly pop to the shops to grab some milk or maybe you work till 5 and the kids finish school at 3:15 is it OK to leave your kids at home? Continue reading “When is the right age to leave your child alone?”

Trying to be a couple instead of just parents.

I’m pretty sure we aren’t the only ones but sometimes trying to be a couple as well as parenting can be very difficult. Even more so now the children are older with Harry being 13 and Ellie being 12 it isn’t like we can send them to bed at 7 pm anymore and enjoy the rest of our night. In fact by the time they have gone to bed it’s time for Gareth to start venturing to bed as he likes to be tucked up quite early in case the babies wake up with the sun! Continue reading “Trying to be a couple instead of just parents.”

Expectation vs Reality – Becoming a family

We all have this image in our heads growing up about our perfect little families. Well I did anyway and for me the expectation was I would grow up, get married and obviously have identical twin girls. My husband would work hard and constantly buy me flowers and surprise me with romantic gestures. I fully blame fairy tales for giving me these huge expectations and falsely so.

Continue reading “Expectation vs Reality – Becoming a family”