Make up – Should they wear it or not?

As part of our Topical Mums panel, this week the other part of the panel were discussing whether or not we should allow our children to wear make up. I wasn’t in this video but I found the discussion really interesting.

Mainly because this is an argument discussion, I have found myself and Gareth having many times particularly when it comes to Ellie my 12 year old.

As I was growing up my mum was never a massive make up wearer meaning that I was never really shown exactly how to put make up on properly. Don’t get me wrong she did show me the basics and gave me some idea of what to wear and where it should go but I see other people with amazing and perfect make up and watch in awe and honestly? I couldn’t tell you the difference between a contour and a foundation or why people would wear a tinted lip gloss instead of just wearing a lipstick.

For me I felt it was important to let my girls experiment with make up and learn the basics so that when they reach an age where they want to actually wear make up they were confident in what they are doing and don’t end up going out looking like coco the clown.

However Gareth was very much against her wearing any make up at all stating that she already looks older than she is and he didn’t want her to create any kind of negative attention from boys in particular. He is incredibly over protective of the girls despite being their step-dad. God help anyone whoever tries to get within 100 feet of them.

I stood my ground

And for Christmas and birthdays we would buy little gifts sets for her to use in the house or for very special occasions. She would spend hours and hours watching YouTube tutorials and now is in fact extremely good at applying make up. I sometimes even let her do my make up if I am going out somewhere and want to look nice. She knows far more about applying make up than I ever would.

Annabelle who is 8 has now got to the stage where she has started to ask for make up and after seeing how good Ellie learnt and how in fact that phase has now gone, she has learnt , is confident in applying it and knows what she is doing Gareth is far more relaxed when it comes to allowing Annabelle to experiment with it.

The other side of the argument

On the video Lauren brought up the fact that children are beautiful naturally and shouldn’t feel the need to cover themselves up with make up. They should be able to express themselves in other ways. Not only that but it could damage their skin and cause them further problems later in life.

So what do you think? Should they be allowed to experiment with make up or should it be an absolute no go?

For me I think it is harmless fun, they have to learn at some point, why not let them learn now, have pamper parties with their friends and just enjoy it?

Thanks for reading

 

Trying to get back a sense of routine

I think that I am not alone when I say trying to get back into some sort of routine after the Christmas holidays can be a little bit of a task. Especially when you are not the most organised of people in the first place and I am not exaggerating when I say I really wish I was. Continue reading “Trying to get back a sense of routine”

Loving the new positive me!

It’s the new year and as most of you know if you follow my Facebook page , This year is all about a new and more positive me. I think I’m doing a pretty awesome job so far at staying positive and not letting things pile on top of me! Continue reading “Loving the new positive me!”

New Year , New Beginnings Make It A Good One

Good Afternoon everyone, I hope you’re all well and not too hung over after the celebrations of the New Year. I spent my new year playing board games with Annabelle, Gareth and a rather smug Harry and Ellie who managed to win most of the games for the first time ever. Continue reading “New Year , New Beginnings Make It A Good One”

Dear Gareth – Merry Christmas & Thank You

Dear Gareth

As you know we decided to postpone Christmas for ourselves this year for a week and focus entirely on the children and making sure that they had the best Christmas that they could possibly have. Particularly when it would be their first one without their much loved Nanny.

We have been through what can only be described as the most heartbreaking and hard year ever this year with so much going on not only around us but between us too.  Our relationship broke down into a million pieces and we lost the ability to communicate.

What people don’t know is that I hit a very dark place, a place that nobody, no friends or family knew about apart from you and despite me constantly trying to push you away you refused to leave the house. You refused to leave me at a time where I didn’t want to see or speak to anyone. Not even you. This was a time where I actually hated you for not packing your bags and just leaving me to deal with my own thoughts and feelings.

For the first time in the 5 years I’ve known you , you made sure before you went to bed that you sat down with me and made sure that I was ok. Checked if there was anything I needed to talk about anything playing on my mind and you put me first.

Today was always going to be very tough the very first Christmas without my mother. The woman who gave me my love of Christmas in the first place. Not only that but it was also the due date of one of the babies I had lost, add to that it being the first Christmas without us being together (the date we got engaged) the pressure and emotions were something that I was dreading. I became quiet and withdrawn  instead of my usual bouncy excited self. But you refused to let me wallow in self-pity and continued to encourage me to stick to traditions that we had created and get excited with the kids.

This morning you woke me up very early only it didn’t quite go to plan  I woke up with full blown flu and severe headaches. I wasn’t able to cook Christmas dinner or even make the trip to cemetery to wish Mum Merry Christmas and instead spent the whole day asleep poorly but not once did you complain.  Instead you took charge.

You took care of all 5 excited children whilst single-handedly cooking Christmas dinner with all of the trimmings.

So I just want to thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being there and supporting me at a time where so many others just turned their backs. Thank you for being stubborn and not leaving me to wallow. Thank you for not giving up on me even though I keep pushing you away and for being patient when I know it’s very hard for you.

I know we aren’t together and who knows what the future has in store for us but I just wanted you to know how much I appreciate you.

Merry Christmas Giraffe

Xxxx

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year From All Of Us To All Of You xx

As we approach Christmas and the New Year I would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a fantastic Christmas and New year. I can hardly believe that it has now been a year since I very first decided to start my blog and my word what a journey it has been. Continue reading “Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year From All Of Us To All Of You xx”

I have a confession and you might want to grab a cuppa because this could be a very long read!

I have a confession and it has taken me this long to be completely honest with myself let alone anybody else. A few of my close friends know little bits, Gareth knows a few more bits but nobody at all knows it all, I didn’t even realise it myself until the last couple of days and now my head is clearer I am ready to share it. Not only with my close friends and family but with everyone. Continue reading “I have a confession and you might want to grab a cuppa because this could be a very long read!”

Trying to find my old holiday park friends – Can you help?

We all have people who come in and out of our lives and leave a million memories that we forever hold.  I have spent a long time recently thinking about the old me, the people who made an impression on my life whilst I worked in holiday parks , the people I became close to and where they are now and what they are up to. With this in mind I decided to use the art of Social media in an attempt to find them and so far the response has been fantastic, However I am still no closer really to finding the people I am looking for. Continue reading “Trying to find my old holiday park friends – Can you help?”

Becoming a single Mum to 5 children is scary!!

If you follow me on Facebook then you will know that Gareth and I have decided to part ways. Whilst we care very much about each other it simply isn’t working and the passing of my mother has just reinforced how unhappy we both were and mutually we have decided to split but still raise the children together. So I am now faced with the scary fact that I am now a single mum of 5 children! Continue reading “Becoming a single Mum to 5 children is scary!!”

Butlins – Back to the 2000’s – Adult Weekend – Skegness – November 2017

A couple of weeks ago I went away on a weekend break with some friends to Butlins in Skegness. I have been several times to their weekends away and if like me you love to socialise, relax and just let your hair down then these breaks are perfect. They always have live acts from whichever decade it is that you’re at be it 70’s,80’s ,90’s or in this instance it was 2000’s.

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