#Bullieswontwin – Jen’s Story

Last week we heard Hannah’s story and how bullying has affected her, this week we have Jen from Just Average Jen telling us what she went through.

 

Please could you introduce yourself and tell us a little bit about yourself.

Hi I am Jen I’m a 36 year old mum of one. I am a full time mum and a blogger which is something I really enjoy doing. My blog started because so many people said I was inspirational and should share my story when I lost weight. I lost just over 10 stone by healthy eating alone. Now I blog about food, my new interest in running, products I love, things I do with my family and lots more, basically just my life and waffles online! My blog is called Just Average Jen because when I started my weight loss journey I just wanted to be average! I had spent years being the fat one, the poor one, the loud One, the shy one, the ugly one, the spotty one etc bit I never felt average and that’s all I wanted to be!

Can you remember when the bullying started for you? Where were you? What happened?

I first remember being picked on as such at primary school when i was 6 or 7 and called fat. I wasn’t fat and looking back at photos now I was most definitely average but the girl at school called me fat once and it stuck in my head and that was the reason she didn’t play with me. I guess it wasn’t bullying in the way some people experience but it did start me on the path of being bullied in other circumstances too because it made me feel like I deserved no better and didn’t deserve friends. I was wrong of course i deserved friends.

Can you remember how it made you feel at the time?

I felt worthless and like I didn’t have the right to have friends.

How has bullying affected you in your life and how you are as a person?

For a long time I was a victim to other bullying over the years including in adulthood until I realised that I could be who I want to be and changed the bits of my life I was not happy with ie my weight and accepted other bits I didn’t like but most of all I realised that people who have nothing nice to say are not worthy of my attention and their opinions do not matter to me.

 

If you could change anything about your experience what would it be? What would you do differently?

 

I would believe people when they told me that bullies are not worth your tears because they aren’t. There are plenty of people out there whonwill love you for you. Sometimes it’s hard to see them but when you find them you see the bullies aren’t worth it at all.

If you could give one piece of advice to somebody who is going through bullying now what would it be?

 

Concentrate on the happy parts of your life and the people that care for you and when the bullies see they are not upsetting you and are not stopping you being happy they will have failed.
Thank you Jen for sharing your story with us, if you would like to know more about Jen and her journey or her blog you can find her on the links below.

 

#Bullieswontwin – Hannah’s Story

Last week we heard all about Victoria from Lylia Rose and her experiences of bullying. I am still completely in awe of everyone who is sharing their stories with me to help me spread the campaign and who are helping to stand up to the bullies!
This weeks story comes from the lovely Hannah from Mysouthbristolyard.

Please could you introduce yourself and tell us a little bit about yourself.
 I’m Hannah a mum of 2 and an admin  assistant.

 Can you remember when the bullying started for you? Where were you? What happened?

I was bullied from primary school on and off but it was secondary school year 7 when it became constant. It was due to having a speak problem and not have branded trainers. The girls were worse heckling me and threatening me. In the end I truanted from year 9 and stopped going to school all together by yr 11 and never doing a single exams.

Can you remember how it made you feel at the time?

 Absolutely crap, it felt like no one cared at the school, I didn’t have any siblings to stick with and I didn’t tell my mum as I didn’t like to worry her.  Back in the 90’s truancy was a lot easier than today but there’s more help out there now. I would hang out with mates, drinking and even took ecstasy.

How has bullying affected you in your life and how you are as a person?

I’m has built my character, I will do anything for anyone and kind to others but at the same time I can be hard emotionally and very stubborn. I would say that if it happened to me in my 20’s or now they wouldn’t get away with it.

althought I left school with nothing I did gain some qualifications in night college, stopped hanging around with losers, got a good job, settled down and had kids.
I have learned to be very quick at firing back remarks and standing up for myself but sometimes jump before I think.

If you could change anything about your experience what would it be? What would you do differently?

 Probably stand up for myself back then.

If you could give one piece of advice to somebody who is going through bullying now what would it be?

Speak out and fight back.

Thank you Hannah for sharing your story with me, It takes a lot to admit how things were and how you reacted to them especially when that involved taking drugs and going down a path that you maybe wouldn’t have otherwise taken.

You can find Hannah at

 Mysouthbristolyard on facebook

#Bullieswontwin -Victoria’s Story

Last week we heard how Rebecca from Mummy Est 2014 was affected by bullying in her story. This week we have the incredibly beautiful and amazing Victoria from Lylia Rose telling us about what happened to her.. Continue reading “#Bullieswontwin -Victoria’s Story”

#Bullieswontwin – Rebeccas Story

Last week we heard from Vikki and how her son has suffered bullying if you haven’t already read it then give it a read. This week our story comes from Rebecca who blogs at Mummy Est 2014. I really appreciate Rebecca sharing her story with us as I am more than sure it wasn’t easy. So thank you very much for being a part of my campaign.

Please could you introduce yourself and tell us a little bit about yourself.

 Hi, I’m Rebecca (Mummy Est.2014). At school I was known by less friendly names such as ‘Fraggle’, ‘Hitler’s Granddaughter’ and ‘Nazi’. But these days I’m Becka or Mama. I am an Early Years Professional and Mummy blogger. I live with my hubby and our son ‘J’ who is 2. J has additional needs so life is very busy but we have lots of fun. We are often out on adventures at the beach, the woods or just out and about.

 Can you remember when the bullying started for you? Where were you? What happened?

My main memories of bullying were from Middle school. It started in year 5 and I was being called ‘Fraggle’ because (according to my bully) I had very long hair and glasses so I looked like a Fraggle from Fraggle Rock. This progressed as we got into the older middle school years and started learning about WW2. I was born in Germany. I’m the daughter of an RAF veteran and was born when my parents were stationed there. I was born on an English RAF camp and am 100% British. But because I was born in Germany and knew a bit of German this ‘obviously’ made me related to Hitler. It made history classes unbearable.

Can you remember how it made you feel at the time?

Continue reading “#Bullieswontwin – Rebeccas Story”

#Bullieswontwin – Vikki’s Story about her sons experience

 Last week we heard a heart-wrenching story from Nicole at The mum reviews . This week we have the wonderful Vikki from Family Travel with Ellie which is actually about her son. If you want to get involved in our #Bullieswontwin campaign then please get in touch via the contact us page.

Please could you introduce your son and tell us a little bit about him

Continue reading “#Bullieswontwin – Vikki’s Story about her sons experience”

#Bullieswontwin – Nicole’s Story

We are continuing our #Bullieswontwin series, If you’re not already familiar with the series then you can read all about Our #Bullieswontwin Guest post series by following this link . Last week we heard the amazing story from Sophie Mei Lan, I think you will all agree that Sophie has more than shown that bullies will not knock her down. She is doing absolutely amazing. I’m still very shocked that someone who is so beautiful was taunted in such a way. I would put money on the fact it is because she is stunning and the people were jealous of her. Continue reading “#Bullieswontwin – Nicole’s Story”

#Bullieswontwin – Sophie’s Story

Last week we all read Renee’s story all about her amazing daughter who has suffered bullying, if you missed it check it out.
This week our story comes from the incredible Sophie Mei Lan from Mama Mei . Please share your support for our campaign by sharing the stories with your friends, family and anywhere at all that you think will help up to spread the word or this picture of Annabelle using the hashtag #Bullieswontwin Continue reading “#Bullieswontwin – Sophie’s Story”

#Bullieswontwin – Annabelle’s Story Update

I know a few of you were very touched by Annabelle’s story and I thought it would be quite nice if I updated you all on what was happening. Bullying is a massive problem and that is why we have launched our own campaign #Bullieswontwin. If you haven’t already then please check out this weeks story which is from the gorgeous Renee. Continue reading “#Bullieswontwin – Annabelle’s Story Update”

#Bullieswontwin Guest Series – Renee’s Story

We are launching our own campaign against bullying using the hashtag #Bullieswontwin after experiencing a large amount of bullying ourselves. Annabelles story in particular touched a few peoples hearts and I wanted to make people see that there is hope and a light at the end of a very sad and lonely tunnel and asked a few of my amazing blogging friends if they had any stories to share. Please remember you are free to use the picture from Annabelles story to help us raise awareness using the hashtag #Bullieswontwin. I really appreciate your support. Continue reading “#Bullieswontwin Guest Series – Renee’s Story”

#Bullieswontwin Guest Post series

What is #Bullieswontwin?

If you have been reading my blog you will know that I have covered quite a lot about bullying. The fact it has affected not only me , but also my son Harry and my daughter Annabelle. In fact the response and support we received from Annabelle’s story was incredible.This is a subject extremely close to my heart and I absolutely support This Mornings #BeKind campaign. Therefore wanted to do something else to raise awareness of bullying. Continue reading “#Bullieswontwin Guest Post series”