A letter to my son Harry as he approaches his teenage years

Dear Harry

I can’t believe in just a couple of months you are going to be a teenager! 13 how on earth did that happen? I’m pretty sure I only gave birth to you last week and I can remember it so clearly it could have been just yesterday.

So anyway I thought as you’re approaching this massive milestone I would write you a little letter with some hints and tips from a mum to her not so little boy.

The first thing I want to say is how incredibly proud I am of you, you are one of the most kind and caring people I have ever met, you always put others first and this is something I really admire about you.

However please be very careful as you get older that people don’t take advantage of your kind nature, it is perfectly fine to say no, you don’t have to and won’t be able to please everyone all of the time. Unfortunately in life we will meet some not very nice people but how you handle yourself is what matters.

I love how eager you are to learn new things and how excited and enthusiastic you are with the subjects you’re interested , particularly computers. 

However I want you to know that you should completely ignore anyone who tries to put you down for the things that you love to do, when you’re older YOU will be the person who can stand there with your head held high knowing you worked hard and got to where you wanted to go. You don’t need to be a ‘cool kid’ to be successful.

I am incredibly proud of you and how you handled the horrific things you dealt with last year, you showed everyone you are stronger than we all thought 

However I also want to remind you it doesn’t last forever, do you remember me telling you about my time at school and how the second I left school it all stopped and I never had a problem again? I want to tell you whenever you feel like it’s too much, whenever you feel like you can’t take anymore remember I am always here and will always support you, you are better than anyone that feels the need to belittle somebody else in order to make themselves feel good and I PROMISE when you become an adult you won’t have to deal with it anymore.

I am pleased that you seem to have finally found a sense of self worth and are learning to bite back and give as good as you get when people start.

 However please remember to leave the attitude at the front door, it’s one thing being a bit more confident and to have attitude outside but when you bring it inside it becomes a problem.

Things you should take note of and realise as you venture into the lad of the teenager.


I know, I know hard to believe, however I was actually a teenager myself once so know how it feels to grow up and what it’s like to be frustrated with your parents.


You haven’t yet ventured into the world of door slamming but trust me you will, you will stomp up the stairs and then slam your door in a teen strop, I’m just gonna throw this out there, if you slam the door I will do one of two things, imitate you and show you how to do it properly or take the door off altogether so choose wisely the amount of times you choose to slam that door.

However, I know and you know that you don’t mean it and you will only be saying it in frustration or as a response to something I have disagreed on, but that’s OK because regardless of how many times you ‘hate’ me I will still be sat waiting for a few hours later when you love me again.


Your body is going to go through changes and along with that your hormones are going to be raging meaning you may feel like it’s important to have a girlfriend as soon as possible. I can tell you that girls will come and go , your family will be there for you forever. DON’T chase after people who show no interest, you are worth more than that and anyone who is worth what you have to offer will treat you with the same respect and decency as you do for her.

So there you go, there’s your little words of wisdom from old mum here.

I will love you even when your smelly and lazy and grunting instead of talking.

I will support you through all of the difficulties you face as you make your way from child to adult.

I will answer any questions you have regardless of what it may be, believe it or not there isn’t much you can shock me with or that I don’t already know about.

Harry I want you to put on your seat belt and buckle up for this crazy change from a child to a teenager, it’s going to be a bumpy ride but I promise even though you may not think or feel it at times you WILL come out the other side and as a well mannered respectable young man with a good career and a loving heart you just need to make sure you mix with the right people and keep your head down at school. You can be ANYTHING at all that you want to be and the only person who will stop you achieving your goals is yourself.

Love you very much


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