A lockdown 2020 love story! – part 2!

Ok I think I’ve kept you all waiting long enough for the second part of my little lockdown 2020 love story. If you missed it you can catch A lockdown 202 love story part 1 by clicking the blue text 🙂

After the flowers…

So after being surprised with the flowers , I realised I probably liked him a little more than I thought. It took me a while but at some point it clicked that the messages, the flowers etc obviously meant he liked me too. We spent a fair amount of time together at different meets with friends and each time he jumped at the chance to take me home. I’m not into the habit of getting lifts off random internet strangers but he was a nice guy!

The first kiss

It was after one of the lifts home that he kissed me for the first time! ( although I’d secretly been waiting for it several lifts before that one, each time my friend messaged to ask if he had kissed me yet!) We pulled up outside my house and he went in for the kiss, before stopping and asking if it was ok ( yes he really is that polite and nice!) I replied with something like ” It’s fine , I’m not 12!”

Once I got in the house I received a message saying ” thank god you’re not a sh*t kisser” we had a bit of a laugh and joke about it. I guess that is probably where it started. But in all honesty if you was to ask myself or Mark none of us can 100% tell you when things changed.

A first date was planned!

At the ripe old age of 38, I have NEVER been on a first date. When he heard about it Mark told me he was going to take me on one. We had arranged to go to a rollerskating rink followed by drinks and a walk. Then disaster happened!

We were all placed on lockdown!

The roller rink was closed down as was everything else. We were no longer allowed to visit each other. No more meets or walks. It was disastrous! Immediately when put into lockdown I thought that would be the end of my little love story but I was VERY wrong.

Video calls became life

Every evening without fail we would have a video call, sometimes last hours. We would mess around with stupid filters and just chat about life in general. Feelings were starting to grow! There was just something that made it all worth while.

Lockdown was hard work. I was alone with 5 children and nobody was allowed near or to help. One day I was looking out of my window and saw Mark walking towards my house with bags of shopping. He had gone out of his way to get things he thought we needed and treats for the kids. It was then that he would nip to the front door ( 2 metres apart) whilst on his 1 hour daily exercise on his bike.

Video calls meant we could see each other

Things started to ease

As lockdown eased we were finally allowed to meet up with 6 people. This meant that we could finally spend proper time together. I remember one night him looking at me and saying ” I know how I feel about you, I am in love with you” My heart could have burst there were that many butterflies floating around it!

Staying over at each others houses was reallowed

Once we were allowed our bubbles and to stay over at each others houses, Mark and I created our bubble. It was from there we would spend weekends together and one day during the week.

I genuinely cannot tell you how easy this was. There was no awkwardness, no anything. Whilst he was at work, if I was going home I would leave little notes around for him. One day he came home to a bit of a treasure hunt. I’d messaged him saying I’d left 6 notes and he had to find them.

Now where are we?

Well almost 6 months after that first night at N-Trance telling each other we didn’t want to meet anyone. We have met each others kids and they have met each other. We still spend every other weekend together and a day in the week. But a few days things changed.

We sat and spoke and decided that after Christmas we will be looking for a house together! I genuinely don’t know how I would have gotten through lockdown without him by my side. Everything is so easy , we never fight. Any issues are spoken about calmly and worked through ( there’s been a couple of teething issues but nothing more than smelly farts and his lack of like cheese, I mean what kind of strange being doesn’t like cheese!)

Hopefully my happy ever after

I am completely and absolutely, utterly in love with him and I can’t even explain how it happened! When I’m with him it’s like all my problems melt away. Since meeting Mark , My house is nicer, I am much healthier and don’t just slumped around in my pjs anymore. We’re always doing something whether it’s just going for a walk or chilling in the garden by the fire.

Ohhhh I nearly forgot to tell you… we even had our first date! but I guess that will have to keep for another story .. one day!

This is only the beginning of our love story ….

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A lockdown 2020 love story! Part 1!

All over social media I see negative stuff about lockdown 2020, everyone wishing the year away. Saying they want to draw a line under it. For many I can only imagine the struggles they’ve gone through from losing their jobs, to marriage/relationship breakdowns. Going for months without seeing their family or their children. Not to mention all of the sad losses of life. But for me it hasn’t been a negative experience at all! This is going to take a lot of writing so I will do it in a part 1 and part 2.

The beginning

At the start of lockdown 2020 I’d just started mixing with people more. Thursday nights were pool nights, there were bowling trips and walks up the Wrekin. It was at one of the pool nights I first met Mark. For quite a while before this night he had been trying to message me with very little response. Valentines Day I received a message wishing me a happy valentines. My birthday, I’d received a message asking if he could take me for a drink to make up for my rubbish day. I politely declined because I had the kids.

I knew a little bit about him but not very much

Whilst I knew him through a Facebook group where we had lots of interaction and banter. I really didn’t know much about him. On the first night I went to join my friends at pool I spotted Mark stood at the bar. As we had spoken on the group itself quite a lot, I’d decided to go and give him a hug and say hi. I’m not going to lie to you, I’d already stalked his Facebook and he profile picture at the time wasn’t the most flattering. Seeing him in real life I was quite shocked!

Missed opportunity

The night passed by and we didn’t really get a chance to speak. I was goofing around with the people I already knew and Mark had stayed near the quieter people. Getting home I couldn’t help but feel a little deflated we hadn’t had much of a chance to talk. Plucking up a little courage I sent him a little message on Facebook saying it was a shame we hadn’t had a chance to talk. He read it and ignored it! Being my cheeky self I’d sent another saying I can’t believe you’ve left me on read. Again! It was read with no response so I kind of sighed shrugged my shoulders and fired off one last messaged. It was saying I was sorry for bothering him. Then he actually answered saying he thought I’d sent the message to the wrong person

He bought a ticket!

After that we had started messaging every day, just general chatter and nothing overly exciting. My friend Anna and I were off to watch N-Trance at the local bingo hall the following Friday and I’d made it an open invite if anyone wanted to join us. Nobody responded ( Even after me practically begging a couple of friends to join us – Mark included)

Anna and I ready to hit the town

Off we went to the night out, I’d even gone to the effort of curling my hair and wearing make-up , if you know me then you’ll know that not me in the slightest! Around 10ish Mark sent me a message saying he was on his way. I knew he was out with some other friends of ours so assumed he meant all of them but he appeared on his own. I’m not gonna lie I was glad he turned up. Buying that ticket would then go on to change EVERYTHING!

A heart to heart

N-trance finished and I’d tried to convince Anna to join me in a local late bar, she wasn’t overly keen but Mark said he would come with me. After grabbing a drink we headed outside where we stood and chatted for literally hours. Now this is where you all think awww they fell in love and lived happily ever after. The truth is that wasn’t the case at all. Chatting about our pasts, parents, children and where we saw ourselves in the future. Both of us concluded that we were happy leading a single life and making new friends. Each of us having quite a lot going on in our personal lives and wanting to sort them before meeting anybody at all.

I caught a bug!

The Sunday afternoon , chatting away to Mark through messenger he reiterated the fact he was staying single and I agreed. Now this is where I let you into a little secret, from that Friday night in the outside of the bar. I couldn’t stop thinking about him!

There was something about his eyes and the way they lit up when he was talking about things he was passionate about, such as his dad, his kids or cycling. Completely in denial over what was blatantly in front of our faces we carried on chatting as normal.

Monday I woke up and started being sick. Without thinking I’d written on the group that I wasn’t feeling well, Mark quickly offered to get me anything if I needed it. Whilst in my bedroom there was a knock on the door and in front of me was the biggest most beautiful bunch of flowers I’d ever seen.

Where they came from I had no clue till it was pointed out to me there was a card. Written on it was the words ” Hope the flowers make you feel better, Looking forward to spending time with you From Mark x”

To be continued ……..

Jobs are like buses!

So here’s the deal, You might remember a while ago I basically wrote a plea on my blog for someone to give me a job. I stated how desperate I was to go to work and earn money to make my family life better. The result was that NO jobs appeared at all!

I muddled on through the last god knows how long and kept applying for jobs. I did have a part time job in a local shop for a while but it worked out I was literally working for nothing as universal credits take 63p out of every pound after you have earned a certain amount so I left it again.

Applying for the worlds supply of jobs

Recently I got really fed up. Lockdown meant that social interaction was very sparse. There is only so much conversation you can have with little people. I mentioned to a friend that I was job hunting who told me about a vacancy within the covid track and trace system. Having sat through the interviews I was offered the position. In fact better than that they offered me a position that was in a supervisory.

Due to technical errors the start date was delayed. I decided it would be more sensible to keep looking for jobs.

Dream job!

Every since I was younger I have always had a big interest in social work. Helping out children who have had a less fortunate start in life. Feeling like I was giving them a fighting chance at a good life.

There was a vacancy advertised for a support worker in a childrens home and despite having no experience. I decided to apply anyway in the vain hope I would be given the opportunity.

The application was filled in and interviews were taken. Again I was offered the position. This time it was more promising as I spent a week doing some pretty tough training.

Again this was delayed. Due to the nature of the company references and checks all had to come back before I could begin my job. My DBS came back relatively quickly. ( shock to you all I know but turns out I am actually an angel and I have the paperwork to prove it)

Opportunity knocks when you least expect it

Whilst waiting to begin the new support work vacancy , again I decided to apply for more vacancies. These ranged from shops to fast food chains. Cleaning to a delivery driver. What I did wasn’t really important as long as I did something to try to help lead a better life. There’s no worse feeling than seeing your kids in tatty shoes and having to wait before being able to get them new ones ( that’s a whole other story)

Anyway, I’ve side tracked on my little story. Scrolling through Facebook I saw a few jobs that looked interesting. One caught my eye and it was for someone to help a company with their social media. To apply you had to send an example of your videos and they would get back to you. Well in all honesty my videos are either really poor quality or dodgy humoured Tiktoks so whilst the job sounded ideal I gave it a little like but didn’t apply.

Sunday afternoon I was pottering about the house, sorting my bedroom out when I got a message through messenger. It was from the guy who had advertised the social media job. He was asking my why I hadn’t applied and I explained that my videos were pants. After chatting for a while and him saying he had read my blog he invited me to have a chat with him.

Exciting stuff

After a lengthly phone call I was offered the job! And that is where I am now. This morning I went down to the office to meet him and discuss the position and I officially started working for the company today!

I’m super excited to take on this new exciting position and whilst I’ve never officially had any experience of doing anything like this. I am hoping that writing this blog and being a complete and utter social media addict will mean that I will be pretty good at it!

Today I had first hand experience of the kind of products they stock and they’re brilliant ( here is where I do my first shameless plug) go check out www.rideontoys.org and have a nosey for yourself. It’s a shame I’m far to big to play on any of it!

The irony

Ironically , as I’ve been sat working out the frist things that I will be doing for my new job, An email has pinged through from one of the other jobs about trying to get me started ASAP

Jobs are like buses !

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Walking my way to a happier, healthier me!

If you know me then you’ll know that one thing I’ve always struggled with is my weight. I’ve tried diet after diet. Going to the gym, swimming. You name it I’ve tried it! But more recently I’ve discovered the power of walking!

Photographs can make you realise

I’d been to a friends house for a bbq , She had decided to throw a 6 people bbq in order to cheer me up as it was my mums birthday and we had an incredible time. A good laugh, amazing food and played a few games. Everything was nice and happy until I saw the photographs!

When I left my house I thought I looked respectable in a red top and jeans. What I didn’t realise was just how many lumps and bumps it showed. Another friend Tracy sent the photos over the next day and I was absolutely mortified! Aware that I was overweight but completely and blissfully unaware of just how much!

It was time to do something about it

I’ve been the kind of person that will jump on a diet become ridiculously addicted to it then something happens and I fall off the wagon. A bit of an endless circle. These photos however made something somewhere click.

There was no “I’ll start tomorrow or Monday” I was starting this there and then. A slimfast starter pack was on offer on Amazon , so I bought it with next day delivery. Invested in an extra large water bottle and I was ready to go.

My friend Trisha had started walking a short walk everyday so I joined her. After a good walk and chat I realised I actually quite enjoyed it. Soon we were joined by our friend Roy and the 3 of us started taking more walks and making them longer.

Creating a group

We discovered a new passion for walking and Trisha mentioned about starting a new facebook group for other people in the local area to motivate each other on our weightloss journies. Our walks became a daily thing and we started advertising in the group. Before we knew it there were loads of people all wanting to join us on them.

Noticing a difference

The first thing I noticed was that after 2 weeks of walking daily I no longer needed to stop for breaks and to catch my breath. I was able to do the whole thing without stopping at all. Drinking water has also become a bit of an obsession and I’m even seeing the benefits from that too. The hair that I was so stressed about losing is starting to grow back. My skin looks healthier and I’m sleeping so much better! I’m rarely in bed after 11pm now!

I no longer overthink!

Another thing I have noticed is how I no longer overthink the world. I used to spend hours and hours at night time tossing and turning. Going over all the conversations I had that day. Worrying about mindless stuff and generally stressing. You know those people who just go to bed and fall straight to sleep? I used to think they were weird! Like how on earth do people even do that?

Since walking I am now one of those people! If I’m tired I climb into bed and drift straight off to sleep. Feeling stressed is very rare and in general I feel mentally stronger.

Weightloss

I’ve been doing this for 6 weeks now and have already lost 1 stone in weight just by walking and counting calories. It’s crazy when you start counting calories how much you realise things are so bad. An example being, One day I was making the kids a cheese sandwich and was going to make one myself till I looked up the calories in it. Insanely you can have a whole huge salad with chicken and bacon for less!

I’ve still got a very long way to go but I’m definitely very motivated. Last week I was poorly so didn’t do as much. Instead of doing what I usually do and throwing in the towel I waited until I was feeling better then got straight back on it.

Chicken and bacon salad

Walking is a free and incredible thing to have. There are so many nice places you can walk, the benefits are totally worth the blisters and sore feet!
I’ve even managed to get the kids out walking with them joining me on long walks up the local Shropshire hills.

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