My Christmas Wish

If you know me, well actually even if you don’t but you read my blog then you will know I love all things Christmas.  I thrive in the winter and my whole attitude to life, the world, people changes for the better.  Continue reading “My Christmas Wish”

Mental Health Awareness – Trying to find light at the end of the tunnel

I am going to start a series focusing on Mental Health. This has been something I have been thinking about doing since I published my post about self-harming in schools. Now I mentioned in that post how self-harming was becoming a trend and this meant that people out there who really needed the help were being missed. I think that Mental Health is something that shouldn’t be a taboo. It should be spoken about and people should be aware.

If somebody was lay in front of you with a bleeding wound you wouldn’t just leave them would you? So why are so many people expected to just ‘deal with’ mental health problems?. I am hoping that by raising awareness and sharing stories from people who are suffering it will help others. If these help just one person to relate and get help then it will be worth it.

My first story was emailed through to me today and I think it just shows how powerful mental health conditions can be and how they can take over everything! I think that the writer was extremely brave for sharing their story.

Mental Illness – Trying to find light at the end of the tunnel

Am I crazy?

Did that just happen?

Did anyone else hear that?

Just leave me alone?

Don’t go please stay?

 

These are just some of the many thoughts that happen not just in the day but within the minutes and hours.

It’s hard to admit you have something mentally wrong with you because of the stigma you are then labelled with immediately, you must be insane, something must have happened bad in your life or stay away from them there not right in the head they must be dangerous or it may be catching.

I always knew something was wrong by the way I could switch on a coin at any point, Mr nice happy bouncy guy to me cold and distant within seconds acting like I don’t even know you enough to care.

My temper was something uncontrollable just sat there inside waiting to come out whether it be nasty comments, shouting or just putting you down so you feel bad and hurt then all of a sudden CLICK. I’m walking around like it never happened and I can’t understand why you’re so mad.

Relationships don’t work when you so wrapped up in your own thoughts, your own world that you don’t have time or even the patience to care enough about someone else. Constant arguing, shouting, swearing, door slamming, making up, breaking up, making up a vicious circle of emotions that never fade never go away and just seem like routine.

Bouncing from relationship to relationship until you finally find someone who you truly care about and think they can change you, you will move heaven and earth for them they have everything you want in life right there in front of you and you jump at it before it flies away….time goes by it’s good then BOOM you make the biggest mistake in your life and you feel you lost everything in one moment but you get another chance.

When you are with someone in each others pockets for a long period of time you can’t hide anything you get to know their habits, there flaws, the things that make them smile, laugh, cry and unfortunately there’s only so long you can hold back issues you have with you until they see the multiple sides to you and suddenly your problem is now OUR problem. Shouting, swearing, temper tantrums, coldness, over happiness, hallucinations, hearing things all come at once and for someone who doesn’t have these problems or has ever witnessed it before it’s a scary thing to see.

The Breaking Point To Getting Help

A simple thing like washing up you hear something a voice, a lady’s voice but not your partner because she’s outside enjoying the sun, this voice calls you and taunts you and all of a sudden you lose your shit, within seconds your singing to the radio next thing your blubbing and running like your life depends on it out the house in case it follows you whatever it is.

Your partner try’s to calm you down for hours until the doctors are called to calm the situation. That then is the time to seek professional help I went to the appointments that were made and got diagnosed with a severe Personality Disorder, for those who doesn’t know what that means it’s a mixture of Bipolar, Schizophrenia and other disorders which explains why I’m so many different people and emotions all the time. Medication was given but as a means to try to sedate me but it wouldn’t workout so well.

My whole relationship has been based on lies, broken promises of giving time and attention, lack of interest in not only my partner but in myself to the point I was contemplating suicide…now there’s thinking about it constantly to I’m going to walk to the top of that building and it will be quick and over so soon but even despite all this the 1 consistent thing is my partner who’s weathered the storms and still stands there and here I am not even able to show her any sign of love or affection!

Change is in the wind

I’ve made my fair share of bad decisions and let things go past me without a care of who they would hurt, I’ve hurt loved ones and unloved ones. I can’t sit here and blame all this on mental health because if things need to be fixed it has to be from me inside,

I will take my medication, see the world how it is one day at a time and promise to my loving rock of a partner that there is light at the end of the tunnel and that you will get your happy ever after because you are my soul mate and show my children that its OK to have problems it’s how you deal with things that counts.

You could walk past me today and I will smile to you say hello and ask how your day is but all I ask and many people with Mental health issues ask is if you know we have this don’t treat us different don’t talk to us different or avoid us all together, we are just like you but it takes us a little longer to adapt to situations.

Thank you for reading

MENTAL HEALTH IS IMPORTANT! IT IS EQUALLY AS IMPORTANT AS ANY OTHER ILLNESS AND WE SHOULD BE MORE AWARE OF IT AND THERE SHOULD BE MORE HELP OUT THERE FOR THOSE WHO NEED IT. NOBODY SHOULD EVER HAVE TO FEEL THAT ALONE.

There are several organisations out there who do an incredible job and who can help you completely anonymously. I will list some below, You can look on the NHS website for more helplines if none I have listed below can help you. If YOU have a mental health story that you would like to share, completely anonymous then please do get in touch. Let’s break the taboo!

Anxiety UK – This is a charity that offers support to people who have been diagnosed with an anxiety condition

Bipolar UK – This is a charity that offers support to people with manic depression or bipolar

CALM  –  Campaign Against Living Miserably, for men aged 15-35

Mind – Mind is a charity that helps people suffering from mental health problems with support and help

 

** All quote pictures in this article were taken from google however the writing came from someone who deals with mental health problems every day.

Serious leg clinger!

At the moment Bethie is going through a serious leg clinging phase. This is a new experience for me as none of my others have done it. If I stand still for longer than a few minutes you can guarantee a little body will attach itself to me and be glued for a short while. Continue reading “Serious leg clinger!”

Back 2 School and the bad weather means germs!

We all know one of the joys of having our children in a school in winter is all of the nasty bugs,germs, coughs and colds they pick up along the way. Not forgetting the dreaded headlice! When I was approached by Chemist.co.uk to write a must have list for going back to school I jumped at the chance.

Below you will find my must have items for returning to school and beating those winter blues. With 5 children I would like to think that I can be prepared as and when these things happen. Which inevitably they will.

  1.  Any parent ( especially parents of girls!) will know exactly what it’s like when headlice strike. I was thrilled when I looked on chemist online and saw that they had Derbac M. I remember this being around when I was smaller and it being great. So first on my list I have Derbac M. ( Can also be used to treat scabies)
  2.  Second on my list is also a must for times where headlice are a problem. I didn’t purchase one of these as I already have a couple of them but I promise you that you won’t find a better comb on the market for helping you to remove the lice and their eggs. The Nitty Gritty comb has spirals on each prong meaning that it grips the eggs and helps remove them.
  3.  You can guarantee that there are always them stubborn eggs that refuse to leave the hair regardless of what you do. If you read my recent Hedrin review you will see that I was really impressed with the stubborn egg remover. There was no doubt that this was going to be on my list!
  4.  Obviously headlice are not the only issue our children face in winter, there is also the small matter of coughs and colds. I highly recommend using Olbas Oil on their clothing at night time if they are snuffly and struggling. I find it really works well when combined with other things to help them. Such as propping up their heads and rubbing Vicks into their feet. So 4th on my list is Olbas Oil for Children.
  5.  I was told that if you rub Vicks Vaporub on your feet it helps relieve coughs. Now I’m going to be honest here. I sat there and thought to myself, ” How on earth is this going to help my cough if it’s all the way down on my feet and not near my bad chest?”. Turns out it really does work! You rub it quite thickly onto the soles of your feet then cover with a pair of socks and leave on overnight. Don’t ask me how it works but it does!

  6.  Coughs in children can sound horrific and can be quite scary. I’ve been in the situation where Freddie had croup and it was so scary waking up to hearing him struggle. Even now when the weather gets colder he can get a bit of a bad cough. They say that cough medicine doesn’t really do anything but I at least feel like maybe I’m trying to help or soothing their throats if I have something to try and help them and that is why Calcough soothing syrup was next on my list.
  7. Another thing that my children suffer with particularly Ellie is dry skin and sores. Ellie has eczema on her face and it only ever happens when the cold weather comes in. I find that if I keep some Vaseline in the cupboard she’s able to apply it to her face and it helps to ease the outbreak and keep her skin hydrated. Obviously Vaseline is also incredibly handy for many other things too such as scrapes and burns.
  8.  As the weather gets colder we see a lot more cracked lips. Particularly if one of your children is a bit of a dribbler ( let’s face it most youngsters are!) and this can make their lips ridiculously sore. I always keep some lip balm in the cupboard. Not only does this come in handy for the kids but for us too. Gareth particularly suffers with cracked lips so Blistex Orange Mango was a definite for our list.
  9.  Finally no back to school first aid set is complete without a full blown first aid kit. I was super duper mega impressed with this and particularly how much we got for the price. I genuinely have no idea why I haven’t bought one before but I thought I would take a photo of all of the contents just to show you how incredible and how much you get. This covers everything, bumps, scrapes, shock, CPR you name it , it’s in there. This first aid kit is a definite thumbs up from me!

I also took to Facebook and asked some blogging friends what essentials they think you should have to fight the bugs & germs. Here is what they had to say:

Katy from Katykicker “Anti-septic wipes are a must for grazes. I always take a couple out with us for trips to the park too!”

Lianne from Anklebiters Adventures ” A good immunity support vitamin to help build up their immune systems for the bugs “

Helen from My Crazy Family Story ” Hot water bottle, some plastic bowls and a good carpet cleaner ready for the sickness bugs ”

Christy from Welsh Mum of One “It’s not physical things but I would recommend researching a few apps and getting them on your phone ready. One of the things I use the most is a simple torch App on my phone! Also replaceable with a real torch of course. This will help look closely at any cuts / scrapes to see if there is anything in them, as well as things such as looking in the mouth. There are quite a few free torch apps available”

Erica from The Incidental Parent “For nits a Nitty Gritty nit comb and cheap conditioner. The plastic combs are no where near as good and you’re forever getting messages that nits are present in your child’s class…”

Beth from Twinderelmo “Try to get lots of vitamin c in them before the cold season hits so lots of oranges & orange juice in lunchboxes”

Laura from Dot makes 4 ” We have a little cool pack that we keep in the fridge for when the kids fall over. We call it Oopsy Daisy! It’s perfect when little ones hurt their knees!”

Victoria from Lylia Rose “Nitty Gritty for nits with some natural tea tree shampoo, plasters, Calpol and for a wholefood vitamin/mineral boost I use Sneaky Greens to make a smoothie/milkshake every morning”

Pete from Household Money Saving “We have a good selection of plasters. If we have a cut knee at home, it’s always a good way to stop the tears if they get to choose the picture on the plaster”

Jo from Cup of Toast “We have headlice shampoo, a nit comb, plasters, cold compresses, junior paracetamol and junior ibuprofen. We also give our boys daily vitamins, and cram their food with extra fruit and veg wherever possible. Early bedtimes are a must too, as is plenty of fresh water!

Sinead from Sinead Latham “Keep the nits at bay with Child’s Farm detangler; between the tea tree oil and grapefruit so far we have remained nit free (hoping I’ve not jinxed us now!)”

Jess from Mrs Helicopter Writes “Savlon and liquid piriton. The antihistamine is for play dates allergic to our cats. Quite a few times kids have come to play without realising we have three. ”

Janet from Falcondale Life “Micropore tape. My girls are a bit older. In secondary school they have pierced ears and have to tape over their earrings for PE lessons”

As you can see there are a large range of things that you can get in preparation for all the wintery bugs and germs. I ordered mine from Chemist.co.uk. Honestly I wasn’t sure how it would be when coming from an online chemist but I needn’t have worried. As I checked out it asked me to fill in a questionnaire about the medicines and who they were for. I thought this was great as it shows they are responsible over who they give medication to.

Now I’m off to get myself a Lemsip ( something for us adults) and have a little sniff as the little darlings have given me a cold!

 

  • I was given a voucher to spend on Chemist.co.uk in exchange for a post about returning to school and winter bugs. All thoughts and recommendations are my own and any products purchased were chosen entirely by myself and not influenced.

 

 

Buddy The Dog “What’s your favourite collar?”

WE HAVE A DOGGY!!!! Not just any doggy but a beautiful, amazing , cute, gorgeous labrador puppy! Gareth’s parent bought him to help Gareth’s dad with his vision but unfortunately he just kept tripping over him so we were asked if we would like him.

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Aquabeads Disney Playset – Review

A while back I was asking if anybody had anything they could recommend for an 8-year-old girls birthday. Annabelle was turning 8 and I wanted to create some form of gift guide to help other parents who may struggle with ideas. We were offered the chance to review Aquabeads Disney Playset.

When Annabelle opened her Aquabeads she was super eager to get started straight away. Unfortunately she has a younger brother and sister who would just mess with the beads so she had to wait until a suitable time before she could play.

What exactly are Aquabeads?

They are tiny little beads that you put into a little template and once your design is done you spray it will water and it sticks itself together. Long gone are the days where our parents used to have to stand there for hours and hours with an iron trying to do it. The beads appear to be coated in a kind of glue that is activated when it’s wet. Therefore it is no fuss and no mess ( This is something I particularly liked!)

So what did we think?

After we discovered which way round everything went ( which would have been much quicker if we had just read the instructions in the first place) Annabelles first attempt was Rapunzel. Now she isn’t the most patient of people and for a very long time she was the baby so therefore is a little bit of a pampered princess. So after discovering it was quite fiddly she declared that she couldn’t do it and asked her big brother to do it for her instead.

Once she had watched her brother she realised actually it wasn’t as hard as she first thought it was and then proceeded to make her own. She loved spraying them then waiting for them to dry. She was also fascinated that she could just spray them with water and as if by magic they just stuck together.

I personally think this is perfect for someone of Annabelle’s age and I love the fact that they don’t HAVE to follow the pattern if they don’t wish too so it can actually spark their imaginations.

Overall thoughts and feelings

Aquabeads was a big hit for both myself and Annabelle. If I had to point out a downside it would be that they seem to provide you with just enough to do each pattern so unless you purchase the spare sets you can’t play for very long.

This would be a fantastic birthday gift or Christmas present and there are plenty of sets to choose from. I love the look Annabelle loves the look of the Cinderella one!

  • We were given an Aquabeads Disney Playset in exchange for an open and honest review on our blog. All thoughts and feelings are entirely our own.

If you have enjoyed reading our review of the Aquabeads then why don’t you check out some of our other reviews such as Sylvanian Families Ballet Theatre and Logitech Doodle Mouse.

 

Why I Don’t Agree With The Whole Gender Neutral Thing.

Now before you shoot me or create a hate campaign, just hear me out, I have my reasons for not agreeing with the new gender neutral thing. As I’m sure you have seen being gender neutral is everywhere at the moment with John Lewis having a gender neutral label and schools changing their uniforms.

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The simple kindness of a stranger can mean so much

The other day I posted on my Twitter account that I was feeling under the weather and I had a massive headache. If you are a regular reader then you will know that I suffer quite badly from headaches and it can at times be very debilitating. That was one of those days. What I wasn’t banking on was incredible kindness from a complete stranger!

Incredible

I had a little note on my tweet that said “DM your address I’ll pop a little box of happy in the post for you. Free of charge because it’s rubbish feeling rubbish!” I was amazed that someone who didn’t know me at all had not only taken the time to read my tweet but had also taken on board that I was feeling rubbish and had offered to send me something. At this point I didn’t know what it was all I knew was that someone had taken time out of their day to care.

The next morning the postman knocked on my door with a small parcel. I excitedly opened it and inside was possibly the cutest yet most thoughtful thing. Not only did it have some biscuits, a tea bag and some stickers in there it also had the most amazing little tag that read “Hi Cheryl, I hope you’re feeling better and this helps with smiles” It really did brighten my day. Such a small and simple gesture but one that made a great deal of comfort to me.

So Why am I telling you?

Because what I didn’t know is this came from a company called Brew and a Biscuit  On further investigation of the company I discovered their aim is to simply spread a little happiness. Their little boxes come in a small variety and are less than £5! ( They don’t know I’m writing this so I can assure you they haven’t done anything to influence this post)

I just want to return the kindness they have shown me when I was feeling rubbish by highlighting the fact that they exist.

I’ve been nosying and in actual fact their boxes are very cute. There’s even a chocolate one which I think would be perfect for teenage hormone times!

Take a look and if someone you know if feeling a little down or not themselves then why don’t you send them a box from Brew And A Biscuit

Sad Mummy : How do you cope when your child appears to dislike you?

I am and always have been a firm but fair mother. I enjoy teaching my children new things and watching as they explore the world around them and learn. However recently I have come across something that I have never dealt with before and that is my son really seems to dislike me.

I don’t even mean a little or even when I’ve had to tell him off for doing something naughty. This is an everyday thing. It isn’t something I talk about not even to Gareth but it is something that is really starting to make me sad and I figured that I can’t be the only parent out there facing this and feeling this way.

I adore Freddie as much as the rest of the children. If anything I have a soft spot for him as he seems to be a little different from the rest ( I will explain more about that in a future post).

When did it begin?

Literally from when he was born really. Freddie was Gareths first ever baby and in turn that meant that Mummy didn’t get a look in. He wanted to do everything. Feeding him, night feeds , changing him. Don’t get me wrong after raising the 3 elder ones with very little help I really appreciated that he wanted to be so involved and I could rest but it also made it difficult to create a good strong bond.

I would where possibly scoop him up, play games and cuddle him on the sofa. Sing, count, dance, make him laugh but for everything else it was Daddy.  If he hurt himself I would go to help him and Daddy would swoop in and take him off me to make sure he was OK.

The fact that Freddie means so much to his Daddy is adorable but in turn has created a little bit of a problem where I try to do something and I am “Stinky”. Just the other day I tried to help him on the toilet as he is toilet training to be clearly told ” I don’t like you”.

He also was asked

“Freddie do you love Daddy?”

“Yes”

” Freddie do you love Jelly?”

“Yes”

“Freddie do you love Mummy?”

” No”

He literally went through the whole family one by one saying he loved them and not me. In that moment my heart just sank. No matter how hard I try. Taking him to the park, trying to get him to engage in fun things. Lying on his bed and reading a story at night he just doesn’t like his Mummy and I genuinely have no idea how I deal with it as all of my other children and even Bethie have been complete mummies kids. If they’re hurt it’s me they come to. If they need advice it’s me.

Maybe Freddie isn’t so close because I worked full-time when he was very small so I wasn’t around as much as I was for the rest of them. I really don’t know but if anyone has any advice I would love to hear it

Yours Sincerely

A Sad Mummy

x

 

Starting Year 4 – She’s too small!

Annabelle went back to school today where she began her journey into year 4. I can’t describe just how excited she was to return. In fact I would go as far as saying that I’ve never seen her move so fast.

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