I know you have all been waiting and asking so here it is Part 2 of my little lockdown 2020 love story
If you know me then you’ll know that one thing I’ve always struggled with is my weight. I’ve tried diet after diet. Going to the gym, swimming. You name it I’ve tried it! But more recently I’ve discovered the power of walking!
Photographs can make you realise
I’d been to a friends house for a bbq , She had decided to throw a 6 people bbq in order to cheer me up as it was my mums birthday and we had an incredible time. A good laugh, amazing food and played a few games. Everything was nice and happy until I saw the photographs!
When I left my house I thought I looked respectable in a red top and jeans. What I didn’t realise was just how many lumps and bumps it showed. Another friend Tracy sent the photos over the next day and I was absolutely mortified! Aware that I was overweight but completely and blissfully unaware of just how much!
It was time to do something about it
I’ve been the kind of person that will jump on a diet become ridiculously addicted to it then something happens and I fall off the wagon. A bit of an endless circle. These photos however made something somewhere click.
There was no “I’ll start tomorrow or Monday” I was starting this there and then. A slimfast starter pack was on offer on Amazon , so I bought it with next day delivery. Invested in an extra large water bottle and I was ready to go.
My friend Trisha had started walking a short walk everyday so I joined her. After a good walk and chat I realised I actually quite enjoyed it. Soon we were joined by our friend Roy and the 3 of us started taking more walks and making them longer.
Creating a group
We discovered a new passion for walking and Trisha mentioned about starting a new facebook group for other people in the local area to motivate each other on our weightloss journies. Our walks became a daily thing and we started advertising in the group. Before we knew it there were loads of people all wanting to join us on them.
Noticing a difference
The first thing I noticed was that after 2 weeks of walking daily I no longer needed to stop for breaks and to catch my breath. I was able to do the whole thing without stopping at all. Drinking water has also become a bit of an obsession and I’m even seeing the benefits from that too. The hair that I was so stressed about losing is starting to grow back. My skin looks healthier and I’m sleeping so much better! I’m rarely in bed after 11pm now!
I no longer overthink!
Another thing I have noticed is how I no longer overthink the world. I used to spend hours and hours at night time tossing and turning. Going over all the conversations I had that day. Worrying about mindless stuff and generally stressing. You know those people who just go to bed and fall straight to sleep? I used to think they were weird! Like how on earth do people even do that?
Since walking I am now one of those people! If I’m tired I climb into bed and drift straight off to sleep. Feeling stressed is very rare and in general I feel mentally stronger.
I’ve been doing this for 6 weeks now and have already lost 1 stone in weight just by walking and counting calories. It’s crazy when you start counting calories how much you realise things are so bad. An example being, One day I was making the kids a cheese sandwich and was going to make one myself till I looked up the calories in it. Insanely you can have a whole huge salad with chicken and bacon for less!
I’ve still got a very long way to go but I’m definitely very motivated. Last week I was poorly so didn’t do as much. Instead of doing what I usually do and throwing in the towel I waited until I was feeling better then got straight back on it.
Walking is a free and incredible thing to have. There are so many nice places you can walk, the benefits are totally worth the blisters and sore feet!
I’ve even managed to get the kids out walking with them joining me on long walks up the local Shropshire hills.
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As we all know this year has been a bit crazy with Covid-19 swooping in and changing our lives. But could you imagine being in Year 11 during this time and missing out on vital things such. Saying goodbye to your friends being taken away from you. GCSE exams being cancelled after all of your hard work. Prom that you’ve spent all year looking forward to not existing? I thought I would let you all see what it is like from the viewpoint of Harry my 16 year old, who had to leave a week earlier than lockdown due to his sister having a cough.
How did you feel when you had to go into isolation before school officially went into lockdown?
To begin with I was really annoyed at my sister as she had a temperature for one day. The school then wouldn’t let me return for 14 days due to the isolation period. My GCSE’s were fast approaching and I was panicking about having enough time to prepare for them.
My school had put a red carpet out and whilst all of the year 11 students walked down it everyone gave them a round of applause. I was sad that I didn’t get the opportunity to join in.
How about when all of the schools went into lockdown?
Not being able to say goodbye was a huge annoyance. There was a large amount of uncertainty and I wasn’t sure if I would get to see them again before we all went onto college.
It came on the news that GCSE’s were cancelled. Were you happy about this?
To be honest, I was feeling both relieved and disappointed. This was because I had spent the past 5 years of my life working for one singular goal. Just to be told it was for nothing. However I was relieved because I wasn’t doing too well in English and having a different way of marking them meant that my grade may improve.
Prom is yet another thing that you missed out on isn’t it?
Yes, It’s very disappointing that I didn’t get to go to prom. I had already been out with my grandad and bought my suit and was prepared for it. That is now hung up in my wardrobe waiting for some kind of occasion to wear it too.
What has lockdown been like for you?
At the very beginning of lockdown boredom kicked in and I found myself doing small jobs around the house to help my mum out. It was very frustrating not to be able to go anywhere or do anything especially when you’re as sociable as I am.
As we started to come out of lockdown I found my first proper job which was exciting. It allowed me to start having responsibilty with my own money.
During lockdown I had plenty of time to think about my identity and finally came out as gay to all of my friends and family which was a massive relief. Thankfully everyone was extremely supportive. I was surprised that not one person was homophobic towards me in anyway.
What are your plans moving forward?
Hopefully I will get into college and do an ICT level 3 after the plans for the first college I was accepted to got halted due to lack of contact during the Covid-19 lockdown.
I have also looked at and applied for some apprenticeships so right now I am just waiting to hear back from different places before making my final decision. Although time is quickly running out and it is starting to make me feel a little stressed.
August 20th I’ll be going to collect my GCSE’s so not failing any exams would be a bonus!
Thanks for chatting to me ( although it was painful and like trying to get blood out of a stone 😉 )
When you think of pole dancing, what is the first thing that comes to your mind? Pretty girls in lacy underwear swinging gracefully around it? Men in strip clubs? As a whole pole dancing doesn’t have the best reputation.
I heard through the grapevine that it is actually a really great form of exercise and great for strengthening. As well as being extremely fun so I really wanted to give it a try. Baring in mind I’m a uk size 16 I’m not a small girl so never thought I would actually pluck up the courage to do it!
I’d noticed a post for a company called Liberty Pole Dance Academy on Facebook about pole dance fitness classes and shared it. One of my friends Trisha spotted it and mentioned that she had always wanted to try it too. So a session was booked. There was no backing out now.
My first thoughts upon booking it was, Is that pole going to be able to hold this fat ass? What if I’m just too big for it? Maybe I’m just not strong enough. However Trisha is a very energetic and her zest for life is extremely contagious so I knew I’d just have to suck it up , put my ( extremely) big girl pants on and get on with it.
I’m not entirely sure exactly what I was expecting when I turned up but what I can tell you I wasn’t expecting was to find a beautiful dance studio complete with fairy lights!
As we entered I was a little apprehensive. There was a sign asking us to use the hand santiser upon entering due to the current covid-19 situation. We were then asked to fill out some medical forms and a special form with regards to the virus before being advised to take off our shoes and the class would start.
The warm up
The session was started with a warm up. This involved lots of stretching and some squats! Squats hurt and I commented how I was aching already when we hadn’t even done anything!
For a split second I felt like I’d been transported back to 1989 in Mr Evans PE class. Rolling my shoulders backwards and forward the only thing missing was the chariots of fire music he always used to play.
Walking the pole
After warming up it was time to start learning. The first thing we were taught was how to walk around the pole. Now I have to point out about now that I am not, nor have ever been remotely sexy or elegant so if you picture an elephant on tip toes stomping round it will probably give you some image of what I looked like.
Sally the instructor demonstrated how we should do it and I couldn’t help but just stand and watch in awe as she gracefully tip toed around the pole with ease. With crossing our feet in front of each other than gliding round the pole, we very quickly picked it up. Shock , Horror I can be graceful!
Get your minds out of the gutter! I know you’re sat there chuckling about sliding down poles and if you wasn’t you are now 😉
Again Sally demonstrated how you could elegantly wrap your hands around the pole before placing your leg out in front of you and slowly sliding your back down and ending up on the floor.
Now, I’m not going to lie, I watched her and immediately thought ” I’m going to wrap my hands around that pole go to slide down it and just fall down and give myself a dead arse”
Shockingly it turns out that I’m actually quite good at sliding down poles. ( stop sniggering!) I had this in the bag!
After mastering how to slide down the pole the next thing to learn was how to get up from the floor using sexiness and elegance. Again I am neither!
Sliding first one foot out, then the other before sticking her bum in the air. Followed by her boobs and head Sally was just amazing! There was absolutely no way in this world I was going to be able to even get my feet out let alone stand up and be sexy!
I was wrong AGAIN! I easily managed to do exactly what I was instructed and thought for a split second that there was hope for me after all!
Next up was spins! now we’ve all seen it on films, tv shows and some people in real life. These people make it look so easy to glide around the pole like they’re on some kind of carousel. Let me assure you this wasn’t the case for me!
Whilst Trisha seemed to be a complete natural at spinning around her pole, I on the other hand just couldn’t do it! No matter how hard I tried, how many attempts I had. I just couldn’t seem to lift my feet off the floor!
When I was about 10 I was like the world champion of headstands. I could be up there for hours. One thing I have never done however is a headstand against a pole!
Our hands had to be placed into a triangle ( this is not a natural position or a head stand when you think you usually have your hands apart) before placing our heads down , taking a step towards the pole and pushing ourselves up.
Surprisingly on my second attempt I was up! Here I was at the ripe old age of 38 doing a headstand against a pole that was rested neatly between my bum cheeks and it felt amazing! Maybe I could actually be good at this pole dancing
All too soon it was time to start stretching and warming down before ending the session. We were shown how to stretch the different muscle in particular our arms and shoulders. After all they had just spent the last hour holding our body weights. The pole was used during the warm down too. Somehow making it feel easier because you had something to lean against.
From the start to the end every single part of the experience was exciting and fun. Our instructor was extremely encouraging and even on the parts we felt we couldn’t do she cheered us on and helped us get through it.
I genuinely feel like I worked out more in 1 hour of pole dancing than I do in an hour and a half at the gym!
My legs are covered in bruises but every single one was worth it. Once I’m in a better financial position I will definitely be returning! I can see how pole dancing can become extremely addictive and fun!
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Hello guys. It’s been a while hasn’t it? How is life treating you all? Good I hope. After being given a talking to by my new(ish) partner Mark. ( I’ll tell you all about him soon) I have decided that I should probably restart blogging. I’ve so much to tell you all about but it would take possibly 100 years for you to read it all so I will ease in gently. Let’s start with a super quick update on everyone!
As you are all aware Harry was in Year 11 at school and sadly due to Covid-19 he was unable to finish school in the usual way. There was no signing shirts, no prom and more importantly no GSCE’s.
Harry felt like he had worked so hard for nothing. Not been able to sit his exams and say goodbye to his friends or have his prom was hard to swallow.
Now he has left school officially and is waiting on his results he has applied to college and is also looking at apprenticeships. He has even gotten himself a little cleaning job too!
He has also recently come out as gay and I couldn’t be prouder of him.
Ellie is a typical teenage girl, full of hormones and attitude. Nah I’m kidding she is as usual golden. Lock down hasn’t really affected her because she isn’t the most social person in the first place so having to stay home has been a nice break for her. She has spent a lot of time focusing on her artwork , she even designed my new logo!
Unfortunately this was an important year for Annabelle too as she was due to sit her sat’s and leave year 6 ready for senior school. Again she missed the opportunity to say goodbye to her friends. I think it must be super difficult especially knowing she is going to a completely different school to most of her friends. She has handled it well though and has spent a lot of her lock down glued to youtube! She has however been inspired to start blogging herself and is looking to blog the trials and tribulations of being a preteen. What this space!
Freddie has really struggled with being in lock down and you can tell he is missing school. He is really growing into a big boy now. Full of imagination and creativity. I never know if he’s Freddie, a magician or Dracula these days! He can’t wait to get back to school and to his friends.
My little curly haired madam! Bethie has her own personality now. She can go from angel to crazy tantrum throwing toddler in 0.6 seconds. You can see she misses the interaction at nursery and is starting big school in September! Off to full time she goes!
Then there is me!
I’m actually doing bloomin amazing! I’ve met a new guy who is just awesome. I’ll tell you all about him in another post. I eat heathier, I’m constantly active and doing something. Recently I landed a dream job that I am waiting for the start date for and everything is slowly coming together. I even walk miles everyday now ( yes I know me!)
If you follow my blog regularly you will know that Harry is 15 and in Year 11 at school meaning it’s that dreaded year of GCSE’s. I received a text message from Harry regarding his mock exam results. It prompted and conversation between Gareth and I over whether or not we think GCSE’s are easier now.
When I sat my GCSE’s way back in the 1800’s ( 1999) a lot of our results were built up on both the exam and the coursework we had completed. Now there is no coursework involved. Surely that makes it easier for the students in some aspect. My actual exams I did great in but my lack of coursework lead to bad GCSE results.
Research and Studying
This is something Gareth actually pointed out and he has a valid point. When we were studying for our GCSE’s not everyone had the internet so for many it was a case of finishing lessons and using books to find out our information. We couldn’t just flick onto google and ask for help or search something.
Higher grades overall
Personally I find children are gaining higher grades than we were. For example I can’t name a single person out of my family/friends who’s children haven’t passed with a grade A-C ( in old money ) where as back when I sat my exams there were a lot of D’s and E’s from many people and it was only the super smart that gained the A’s – C’s
What are your thoughts
Do you think the internet has made it easier for children to research properly and the lack of coursework makes it easier or do you think it is equally as hard? I’m genuinely interested to hear your thoughts
Well done Harry
Before I go I just want to say a massive well done Harry on your mock exams that you have taken so far and wish you luck in the rest. I’m very proud of you
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Everybody needs somebody or somewhere to turn to, whether it’s to talk about your day, chat about achievements or to express your feelings. Having that secure network is important. It’s important not only for people to give advice but also for your own mental health. Having nobody there beside you can be an awful experience.
Why I’m doing this
I myself have experienced extreme lows to the point where I didn’t even want to be alive anymore because I felt like nobody cared. Sometimes even those close to you seem disinterested or don’t really actually listen.
Some may not even know how to respond when you are feeling so low and something that is massive to you may come across and not important to them. People don’t seem to realise that just because it isn’t a big deal to them doesn’t mean that it isn’t a huge deal to you.
I never ever would want anybody to feel the way I once did, it is an awful dark place and one where loneliness doesn’t even begin to explain the hundreds of emotions and the amount of hurt that you feel.
So what am I going to do about it?
After another brief period of feeling extremely low I decided I didn’t want this, I didn’t want anybody at all regardless of age, height, skin colour , sexual preference , disability to feel alone.
It can be quite daunting opening up to somebody, telling them your innermost feelings but it can also be extremely beneficial.
Whilst I am in no way shape or form any kind of doctor or professional I am human. I want people to know there is always somewhere to turn and for this reason I would like to reach out to anyone who just feels alone.
You could be a mother, a business man, in a highly stressed job, single father anything at all! If you need someone to talk to I am here. My email address is email@example.com please use the title somewhere to turn in your email so that I don’t miss it.
I will listen, even if it’s just someone to talk about your day with, talk about the kids, moan about the kids, talk about your partner and your stresses I will listen. Like I said I am no professional by any means but I would like to offer that tiny bit of support to those who need it in whichever way.
It’s important that you understand that if I feel worried for your safety or concerned about you then I will ask you to refer yourself to a qualified mental health worker but where possible I will try to talk to you and listen to what you have to say.
What do I get out of it?
Knowing that I have helped somebody, that I may have brightened their day , made them feel less lonely or sad, the knowledge that I may have made someone smile or even just helped ease the pressure of their day to day lives by simply listening.
Thank you for reading and please send me an email if you need to talk, don’t suffer with your problems alone , I am here for you
Kids today don’t realise how easy they get things compared to when I was younger. So I’ve decided to do a little series on the things that are completely different now. Let’s start the series with the internet
If you’re an old git like me then you will remember good old dial-up internet. You had to sit and wait for it to connect before you could use it and even then it was hit and miss whether it would work or not.
You’d set your computer up then sit whilst the lovely tones of it connected went through. Now this wasn’t an instant fix you was waiting for ages! These days kids just turn on their phone or laptop and bam! the internet is there fully working.
Oh and not to forget how super slow it was, we had none of this instant pages. If we wanted to search something, it would take a good 5 minutes for the page to even think about loading!
Using the phone and the internet at the same time
I know kids, it’s crazy isn’t it. There was once a time where if somebody rang the house or picked the phone up to make a call then the internet would disconnect!
You could be in the middle of playing a game or chatting to your friends and just like that disconnected . Now a days most people don’t even have their house phones plugged in. They don’t worry about someone ringing and it cutting the internet off.
Us oldies remember having to sit there for an absolute age waiting for the games to load. Whilst crossing our fingers nobody would knock the internet off, now they can video call whilst playing a game. We may have been lucky to get 5 minutes without any form of interruption.
Already a difference
So you see kids! I’ve only started with the internet and already you have it so much easier, but I guess that’s why us oldies tend to appreciate these things a little more. Most people didn’t even have the internet at home when I was growng up at all and most of us hadn’t even heard of it until we were approaching our teens.
I have also started this series over on my tik tok account @chez_Mo5m so if you want to follow it in the very short visual 60 seconds format head on over there to have a look 🙂
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Ok ok so that isn’t strictly true, I’m not swimming the actual channel itself but I am swimming the same distance in miles at my local pool.
Why this challenge?
I was scrolling through Facebook when I noticed the challenge pop up in my adverts, instantly I saw the challenge and thought to myself this is something I could do. Checking out the details I discovered that it was actually an aspire challenge and the aim was to raise money for people with spinal cord injuries.
Who are Aspire?
Aspire are a national charity who provide practical help to people who have been paralysed by a spinal cord injury.
People with Spinal Cord Injury will lose muscle and sensory control and a large majority will become full time wheelchair users for the rest of their lives. Historically, the majority of spinal injuries have been sustained by those aged 21 to 30, with nearly three quarters of newly spinally injured people being male. However, Spinal Cord Injury is increasingly affecting older people now too. Approximately 2,500 people sustain a spinal cord injury in the UK each year.
Through its projects and programmes, Aspire offers practical support to the 50,000 people living with a spinal cord injury in the UK. This support allows people with spinal injury to lead fulfilled and independent lives in their homes, with their families, in their workplace and in leisure time.
What the challenge means to me.
After reading all about the charity and the things they do I quickly realised that this really is something that could happen to anybody at any time. You could fall off a chair awkwardly , be in a car crash and more and injure your spinal cord. Anybody at all could be fighting fit then suddenly their lives change for good. It kind of hit home as although I’ve never had a spinal cord injury I have had several lumbar punctures which can leave you extremely uncomfortable let alone suffering for your entire life.
Swimming is something I have always enjoyed and been quite good at since I was a small child. My Dad actually taught me to swim when I was around 5 years old and from that moment on I was a little bit of a water baby.
For a while I had to stop swimming after getting quite a nasty ear infectio from the pool but I saw this challenge and really wanted to take part. I may not be an excellent runner for the charity runs, or even overly athletic for the obstacle type charity events but one thing I can do is swim!
How the challenge going so far?
I am doing the challenge with my sister in law Emma and unfortunately due to illness and other commitments we have had to cancel quite a few sessions but we are finally approaching a quarter of the way now.
We only have until 2nd December to complete it and whilst that seems like a long time its a hell of a lot of lengths to get it.
To begin with when we went to the pool we were only hitting 30 lengths, today we completed 52, so whilst we might not be the best or fastest we are definitely improving although my skin is starting to feel extremely dry now.
In fact I’m sat in a face mask as I type this trying to help it a little bit. Also this morning I somehow injured my shoulder and Emma hurt her back so we are having a couple of rest days to try to calm the injuries down.
Can we sponsor you?
Yes, of course you can! I have a couple of ways you can sponsor me, you can either go through my just giving page or you can contact me for my bank details to send money over that way.
This is a very tough challenge but we are determined to beat it!
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- this post was not endorsed or sponsored by Aspire I just wanted to share with you one of the things I’m currently up to
When we were at school there wasn’t such a thing as social media bullying, therefore if you was bullied as soon as you got home you didn’t have to deal with it again until the next day.
Now don’t get me wrong , It was still horrific and I was bullied quite severely myself. However now if you are bullied then it doesn’t just stop at the school gates.
I have personally seen a large amount of bullying across and different array of social media platforms and as a Mum to a large number of children it concerns me that it could happen to them.
What is classed as bullying?
Now this is a question I myself asked a teacher regarding Harry when he went through his difficult times of bullying. I had emailed a teacher witha list of several things that had occured from having abuse hurled at him, to having all of his school items thrown in the shower and the response from the teacher was ” I can see how this could become bullying” As you an imagine I was not impressed with that response.
I promptly emailed back and asked if he would kindly set up a meeting with me to discuss what he considered bullying as just because somebody hasn’t been physically hurt it doesn’t mean that they aren’t being bullied.
Oddly enough that meeting never appeared, a short while later one of the bullies physically attacked my son and I feel that had the school have responded correctly in the first place and acted on the things that had already happened this could have been prevented.
Types of social media bullying
As a blogger I use almost every social media platform. This blog post is purely to help raise awareness of the things I have personally witnessed and is not intended as a professional piece.
Whilst using social media I have come across some pretty horrific comments, pictures and awful abuse hurled at people. I myself have been on the receiving end of some of it.
One comment I received at a time when I was partcularly low already, I was already debating my abilities as a mother when someone commented about how my children would be better off without me. This comment had a humungous affect on me, one I am not going to go into too much detail about but it just shows how deeply those little words can affect somebody.
More recently I have been called ugly, fat, people have written things such as they can’t tell if I’m a man or woman, they have spread rumours and lies around about me and it has had an affect on my personal life, social life and even some friendships.
Monitoring our children
Now as much as I would love to tell you all of the things I have seen have come from children I would be lying. Some of these things are coming from full grown adults, people who are parents themselves. The same people who are absolutely incredible in the eyes of everybody else and portray themselves as amazing across social media then are clever and send these things via private messages.
With this in mind I wondered what we as parents could do to help protect our children from social media bullying. Here are a few things that I personally do, whether or not you wish to do the same is up to you or even if you have any other fantastic ideas to help keep our children safe please write them in the comments below.
- Keep an eye on messages. Now I know this may seen very obvious but it’s very easy to become distracted and not check for a short while. Alongside social media bullying there is also a risk of people pretending to be somebody that they are not and posing a more serious risk. Always remember to check others and any other filtered / deleted chats. Whilst our children need and deserve privacy they also need to be safe.
- Show them videos online of the consequences of not being careful online. There are many videos out there showing the dangers around social media and if I see something I feel with educate or help my children stay safe then I sit with them and watch it.
- Monitor their pictures and posts uploaded on social media. I always try to make sure if there are any comments I read them. Anything I see that doesn’t appear to be friendly I question. Even if sometimes that means going directly to the persons parents.
- Turn off commenting. This is something I would do in severe circumstances. Whilst social media is great for sharing things with friends and family it is also VERY public so by turning off commenting you are not allowing trolls to write things that could ultimately affect the well-being and mental state of your child.
- Set their profiles to private. Many social media platforms automatically create your profiles as public but all of them have the option to become private meaning that people can only see the material your child is putting up once they have been allowed to access the page. For example Annabelle is given very clear instructions not to add or respond to anybody she doesn’t know personally.
- Have their accounts signed into your phone so that you can check and keep an eye on things. Now I know many won’t agree with this but for me it’s important. I once caught one of my children talking to a stranger, the child in question assumed it was ok because it was a friend of a friends cousin. You can never be too careful of who they are talking to. This also means you can monitor and make sure they aren’t bullying people themselves.
- Remove social media all together, If you see it’s all getting a little bit too much andthe comments, pictures etc are starting to affect them then remove all social media. Trust me when I say you wont be the most popular parent in the world but you will give them that little bit of cooling off time and break away from the stresses of it.
- Report any vile or upsetting pictures and comments that you see. Most if not all social media has a reporting button next to posts/comments. When you report it they then decide whether it should be removed or not.
Protecting our children
Whilst it is literally physically impossible to be with your children 24/7 and monitoring everything they do we can only try our best. If I ever found one of my children writing insulting or upsetting remarks to anybody else then I would make sure they didn’t have the tools to do that again.
Maybe if more parents monitored their childrens behaviour and put things in place to prevent others getting hurt instead of leaving them to it we could all enjoy the world of social media a little more
Everything in this post is my own thoughts and feelings.
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Gareth and I went out for dinner the other day and conversation quickly changed to the children and where they were in their lives. One of the topics of conversation was Harry leaving school and having to make the decision between going to 6th form or college.
During our discussion we mentioned how Harry had his heart set on becoming an act,his overall dream being to play The Doctor in Dr Who. Obviously the acting world is tough, in fact any kind of performance related work is tough and the odds of actually making it are slim.
I was just like Harry at his age, I was determined I was going to become an entertainer and nobody was going to stand in my way. The school careers officer visited and told me how it was a tough business and that I should probably think of a back up career just incase.
Obviously back then I was a 15 year old know it all who didn’t need any advice and simply thought ” well I’ll show him” I didn’t take his advice and thought I knew better. Leaving school I went onto college but left after a short while because I had finally landed my dream job.
I had sent out letters ( yes you know pen on paper and posting through the letterbox and everything) to every holiday park in the UK asking them to give me chance until finally somebody was willing to give me the chance.
The job was everything I dreamed about and more but as the career advisor had said, it had a short shelf life and at the age of 22 my entertaining career was over. Guess what? I didn’t have anything to fall back on. So now at the ripe old age of 37 I’m living a life where I feel like I could have achieved more, I could have worked harder and been settled into a career.
Time for a chat
With all of this in mind we decided that evening we were going to sit Harry down and stress the importance of following his dreams but also having a back up in place.
He walked in from school and we simply asked, ” what are your plans for the future” Fully prepared to have to battle him with facts and drumming it all into him.
However he shocked us completely when he said ” I’m going to study performance and computer science, that way if I don’t become an actor then I will have a career to fall back on”
We let out a sigh of relief before telling him it was a great decision. So now he is in the process of deciding whether to go to 6th form or college to study. Since a very young age he has been adamant he will go to university so I guess we sit back and watch what develops.
As always I will guide him and offer his advice but this is the first time ever I have to completely take a step back and let him make the decisions that are best for him himself. I’m not 100% sure I’m ready to step back too much just yet.
When did he grow up eh?
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